AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 5/23/2008 Subject: can i fix it?
Question I go to school with a guy that I really like. I've liked him since seventh grade!
We'll call him Adam. He's very cool, very charismatic, and almost everybody
likes him. Although he's kind of scary, I've got it bad for him. <3 He's always
going out with somebody, because everybody likes him. Right now he's going
out with a girl that we'll call London. So London's not nice. To anybody.
Except for Adam. She spreads gossip, she's manipulative, and very few people
like to hang out with her. She found out from a mutual friend of ours that I
liked Adam, and beat me to the punch asking him out. Although, I don't
know if he would have accepted anyway.
Adam's only known London as long as he's known me, and yet they do a lot
more things together. Last year in homeroom, he brought his headphones to
school and we listened to his headphones using the same set - but I've never
been invited across the street to Arby's with his group of friends. It's like
we're friends in school, but nowhere else. He's nice to me, but I think I've
fallen into the position of 'friend: shoulder to cry on'. We're good friends - not
quite close, but yeah. He talked to me when his last girlfriend broke up with
him.
Both Adam and London are people who tend to hang on to relationships.
They've both dated a ton of people, and haven't ever broken up with them.
They're content. So I think that they'll date FOREVER and I won't ever get a
shot to show Adam how much he'd like me! A lot of my friends say that we
would work really well as a couple, but I don't know if they're just saying that
because they're my friends.
Is there anyway I can get out of the 'friend' position, into the 'possible
girlfriend' position, and get London out of it? It may sound really rude, but
she doesn't deserve him.
Thank you so much, if, when, EVER you get to this question. I really
appreciate your advice.
Answer Kori,
It looks as though you're in a sticky situation.
You don't want to be a person who breaks up a relationship, or cause drama in one. If I were you, I'd try talking to him in a little while. Give their relationship a little time. If they grow into a greater couple, then that's good for them, if not, and it grows into a bad relationship and they break up, then you're there to let him know your feelings.
It seems like he's thinking you're just a good friend, and I know, that's hard to hear. Tell him your feelings toward him, but don't turn it in to a drama match between you, him, or London. Give it time. Anything more, let me know.
