About James Expertise I can answer most questions on dating from male or female perspective, straight or gay as i believe every person goes through the same problems in life but on different scales.
Experience I've always given people advice, its something i'm good at, i'm gay and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years,i don't think our relationships perfect but its healthy. I give my female friends advice and they say i'm good because i'm honest, its not always the thing they want to hear but in the end it makes for happiness. My relationship started out long distance and we now live together, so i can give personal advice on a lot of issues which i have dealt with. I'm a nice, polite guy and i'm applying as i really want to help people with personal issues.
Education/Credentials well i attended and passed secondary school (high school) but apart from that its just the school of life, i feel i naturally understand and relate to people, something no education could get you.
Expert: James Date: 6/29/2008 Subject: Boyfriend problem
Question
Hi
Okay, so my boyfriend (16) and I (also 16) have been dating for over a month now. We go to the same high school, and stuff, and mostly hang out before and after school before sports, because we don't really have much time because of sports to hang out after school. When we first started hanging out, I really liked him. I still like him, but he has said he loves me (over facebook messenger) and I kind of just didn't say it back. I just don't think I do, at least not yet, and I don't want to say it if it's not true. My friends and I go to this one place every morning and have time before class starts to just hang out. My boyfriend comes there every morning, and he wants to hang out during every lunch block and after school all the time, and it's not that I don't like him, or not want to spend time with him, just I want to spend time with my other friends, without him sometimes, and just do homework, or you know, just not have to have him flirting all the time. It's summer now, and I'm away for the whole summer, so we won't see each other much, if at all. We still talk online and over the phone a bit, but it's not as much. I don't want to break up with him, especially when we aren't going to see each other until school starts, but I don't want to say I love him, and I don't want to be like suffocated by him in September either. Should I say something to him about wanting space? Should I wait until school starts and just kind of keep my distance? Should I tell him that I don't want to say "I love you" yet? or should I break it off, because I'm not sure if I will love him?
Thanks
Answer Hi Julie,
A month isn't long enough to know if you have these deep feelings, if he asks why you don't tell him you love him back then tell him honestly " i need the time to fall in love with you, its not something i give away freely" hopefully this should let him know, you will tell him when or if you love him. Of course you need your own space , it's healthy, people have their own lives outside of their partners. But if you still feel like you need distance then maybe a break up is best, it's all your decision. Hope this helped a little.
