AboutSuzi Zimmerman Expertise I am a teacher and I write books on teen dating, self-esteem, and values. I can answer questions on making healthy choices, self-improvement, liking yourself, relationships and friendships, goal-setting, values, and how to handle making difficult choices.
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My boyfriend and I, both 15, have been dating for a little over 9 months. The first time he tried to kiss me was after homecoming when we had only been dating for about 5 days. It took him about a month and a half to kiss me for the first time. Of course we had the awkward stages at first for about the first 3 months, but then I began to feel comfortable around him. I wanted to completely break the ice and I talked to him about it, but when he tried I just backed off and didn't want to (I don't know why?!) I don't know if it's because we kind of planned it and I wanted it to be because it was the right time, not because we felt that we had to. After that, he was always hesitant to do anything, but I am not a person to be like, "Hey, make a move already, I'm ready!" I think that I can be stand offish and I'm not sure what to do. I don't know if the problem is that I just don't like him and that's why I am uncomfortable. I think I am ready now, but I don't know how I'm supposed to feel. I don't get really excited like I used to when he texts me, calls, or when I see him. I'm not sure if that's just because I'm comfortable around him or it's that I just see us as friends. We don't get to see each other a lot now that it's summer and we can't drive. He let me know that he wants to see me more often, but he can't seeing that he doesn't have a ride. We see each other about once a week. He's such a nice, laid back guy and would never do anything to hurt me. I know that he cares, but it's his first real girlfriend/long relationship and he just doesn't do those little cute things that mean the most, ya know? Last week we talked about taking a break, but he didn't want to. To wrap it up, I guess my question is should we try to hold on, see how it goes, and see what happens or do we need to take a break and see how it is apart?
Thank you in advance,
Lauren
Answer Lauren, I'm a bit confused about your question. What are you talking about when you say this:
"Of course we had the awkward stages at first for about the first 3 months, but then I began to feel comfortable around him. I wanted to completely break the ice and I talked to him about it, but when he tried I just backed off and didn't want to (I don't know why?!) I don't know if it's because we kind of planned it and I wanted it to be because it was the right time, not because we felt that we had to."
When he "tried" what?
Answer this and get back to me. I want to help you but need to understand your question better.
