AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 6/25/2008 Subject: First Love Repair
Question I met this guy in school and ever since the first day of meeting him I had a feeling that something was going to happen with me and this guy. It is like a first impression I get from certain people. I ended up liking him and would flirt like crazy with him but he never noticed the signs I was trying to give him. One day I decided that I was going to tell him how I feel and that day he got real happy and told me he felt the same way. A couple weeks after he asked me out and we went out for 7 months. During those seven months we have had a lot of argument that he began because he was having doubts on how I feel about him. During that time I fell in love with him. We talked for hours last night and it is obvious we both want to get back together but I do not want to go through the same problems like before. I am the type of girl that does not like to show my emotions because it makes me feel weak and he says that was the reason he has had so many doubts. He also has had trouble trusting me after a guy at school hit on me even after I told him what had happened and that I was not trying to get with the guy because I do not cheat. After that he admitted to me that after our big fight he began to regain feelings for another girl in our school. That broke my heart like crazy but I thought the only reason he told me that was to make me feel the way he did. Now every time I see him talking to her or something I get jealous and I have never been a jealous girl. I'm scared I'm going to lose him to her. I really love this guy and want to get back with him but I do not know what to do to avoid these insecurities he has and stop my jealousy.
Answer Bren,
It seems as if the both of you have small trust issues that need to be dealt with before anything more ensues.
I'd talk to him, and let him know how you feel, and the way he makes you feel when you see him with the other girl.
After every fight in a relationship, a small piece of the relationship falls off. With more and more fights, the relationship gets weaker and weaker, and that sounds what has happened with the two of you.
First loves are hard, and hard to get over. No matter what happens, you'll always have a place in your heart for them. We've all been through it, and it stinks. Keep your head up, and try to occupy yourself with other things like friends, going out, and other hobbies you may have. Smile, and look alive.
