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Expert: Ryan Date: 6/17/2008 Subject: Girlfriends commintement.
Question Hey my names nick. I've been going out with my girlfriend for 9 months now. We were "together", but agreed not to go out last year for about 4 months because we went to separate schools and we ended up going our separate ways over summer.
The problem i have now is that i don't know how to get her to care more about me. Now that we've been going out for so long it's almost as if she';s getting sick of me and i hate it. She should want to see me more aand hangout with me more. She ditched me just earlier today when we made plans a couple days ago to hang out.
I honestly think i'm in love with this girl. I'm the one that cares about our problems when we fight, and she doesn't at all. She'd rather just blow off the argument and just go hangout with her friends.
I confronted her about it and how she's so care-free and she just said, "Well it's my first summer with having a boyfriend and i'm used to doing whatever i want"
And i tell her that she can't do whatever she wants now, she always wants to hangout with her single friends and do whatever they do, and it's always stuff she shouldn't be doing. Like hanging out with a bunch of guys she used to like, or hanging out with upperclassmen that are complete pigs and all they want is ass. And when i tell her that she yells at me and calls me controlling.
Over the winter months in December and January, me and her were absolutely amazing. She'd always ask me to hangout and she cared ssoo much about me. She even wrote me a letter saying how much she cared about and loved me.
But i don't know what happen, she all of a sudden stopped and all she wanted to do was hang out with her friends. We didn't get into a fight, i didn't do anytihng wrong, nothing. She just...changed.
I want to know what to do to get her to really like me more and care about me more and want to hangout with me, cause i can't break up with this girl.
HELPP!
Answer Nick,
I've been through sort of the same thing as you. My girlfriend changed when summer came around.
What's happening is she's wanting to spend time with her friends, and you. Friends play a huge role, and she probably doesn't want to ditch them, or feel like she's losing touch with them. In turn though, she's losing touch with you.
I'd talk to her. Don't be mean, or sound angry, just tell her of your worries. Tell her that you want to see her, and that it feels like she's changing. When she calls you controlling, it's because it's coming across like you're not letting her do what she wants. When you talk to her, do it in person, it'll be a lot better. Go out for ice cream, or dinner, or somewhere quiet. Letting her know how you feel deep down inside should help.
