AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 6/24/2008 Subject: Long Distance
Question Hello, Ryan my name is Sarah and I just don't know what to do! I'm 16 and I haven't been with my boyfriend for very long but he is the first guy I let my guard down for emotionally and physically!! That means a lot to me! I really care about him its just that he had to moved back to his home state so now we're in a long distance relationship I never thought that I would be in this but I am and I will forever be faithful! I just don't know if he is and I don't really know all that much about him and I guess if you could maybe like give me some good heartfelt questions that could help. Also I don't even know if he's cheating on me I mean I don't know and I never accuse so but what could be some signs maybe. The only time we talk is at night most of the time. He's not really a romantic either so how would I be able to get him to express his feelings more? I would be so thankful if you would help me in my dilemma and just to let you know I don't really know how to express my emotions either! Thank You so Much!, Sarah
Answer Sarah,
Long distance is tough, I've been through it. It really makes or breaks a relationship per se.
What you need to do is stay in contact as much as possible. Talking at night really won't cut it for too long. You'll start feeling jealousy, and wondering what's going on during the day. Text/IM/call during the day, you don't need to overdo it, but just make a small attempt. Also, when you both talk, make it meaningful. Tell him what you did that day, a funny joke you heard, something to keep the convo going for as long as possible. Tell him when you miss him, and tell him you love him.
Him not expressing his feelings is something you can't change. Some people are VERY open, some aren't, and it's just the way it is. What I'd do is tell him that he can tell you anything and not feel vulnerable, because you do love him, and you're in this relationship because you care so much about him.
Again, long distance is tough, but is very manageable with the right commitment from both ends.
