AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 6/18/2008 Subject: age fdifference/ long distance relationships
Question I met this guy a year or year and a half back online (same country), and we've been great friends ever since. We chat late nights and tell each other all of our problems, or basically whatever one would do with you're really good and close friends. I've always had this little crush on him since then too. we are so similar, and he's a great person tio know. however recently he told me that he's been having feelings for me since the turn of the new year and as I told you, I had always found myself attracted to him, though I went out with another guy from my grade for 3 months. He's not forcing me into anything at all. he's told me to think about it without any sort of a pressure, and he said he's going to pop the question, only when he comes to meet me, for the first time, next year after my final exams, since this year is very crucial to me academically. he's 22 and a half and i turned 16 in April. I really don't know what I should be doing, since he's almost like the perfect guy Ive known and he really likes me a lot, and him liking me is like this dream come true. also, the issue is that he'll be shifting abroad soon, though he's to come back to the country very often regularly. please help me decide what decision I should take.
Answer Shreya,
It seems to me like this may be moving too fast. He's talking about popping the question when you two have not even met yet. Does it happen and work? Yes, but it's rare. Also, you're 16, and he's 22, in some states such an age gap is frowned upon, and sexual relations is illegal.
I'm not trying to get you down, but I need to state the facts first as I see them. I'd keep in touch like you're doing, but I'd tone down the talks of marriage a little bit. Talking about that sort of thing at a young age, especially when never even meeting him usually ends with heart breaks or let downs. So, keep the communication open, but be wary of your feelings.
