About James Expertise I can answer most questions on dating from male or female perspective, straight or gay as i believe every person goes through the same problems in life but on different scales.
Experience I've always given people advice, its something i'm good at, i'm gay and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years,i don't think our relationships perfect but its healthy. I give my female friends advice and they say i'm good because i'm honest, its not always the thing they want to hear but in the end it makes for happiness. My relationship started out long distance and we now live together, so i can give personal advice on a lot of issues which i have dealt with. I'm a nice, polite guy and i'm applying as i really want to help people with personal issues.
Education/Credentials well i attended and passed secondary school (high school) but apart from that its just the school of life, i feel i naturally understand and relate to people, something no education could get you.
Expert: James Date: 6/14/2008 Subject: disapointed in love.
Question hi, im quit an older then hope you dont mind im 19 bu, my boyfriend is 18.
We have been going for almost 2 years and the only problems we ever had
was him jacking off VERY often on porn. I always felt he cheated on me with
them because it was always the same type of porn starts he'd look at. He he
my FIRST of everything and im his first too for everything so i dont know how
to deal with everything. He never went to a strp club b4 we were together
since he was 16 so when he was 18 we went togther and he went often since.
Last night i found out that he didnt just looked at them for entertainment he
actually has favortied and thinks about doing them which hurts me because i
never think about sleeping with anyone else but him. He always checkouts
MILFS and girls in front of my face also. Today he told me its normal that
random girls in publice would sexually exite him just by looking at them, he
says male are like animals , if u feel the sexual connection it just happens
that u get horney. Yes i know males are animals and just think about sex but
i thought only me would get him horney is it tooooooo much to ask to but is
one girl and not feel like he can replace me anyday? Im so confused i love him
so much but if i would break up would it do the same thing with every guy
should i deal with it now and just not think about it. help me i dont want to
break up with him and regreat it i need help
Answer Hi Katy,
first of all i disagree, men don't always think of sex. I hate to think the man you love is hurting you, what i would do if i was in your situation is; Raise with him that it hurts you, that you feel unwanted, if he loves you as much as you love him he would hate the the thought of making you feel replaceable and he SHOULD stop. If he carries on being led by his penis by visiting strip clubs and masturbating over porn, then you need to re-evaluate if you can cope with this and if it would be a happy relationship, write back to me, i would love to know what happens, and would like to help you with what happens next. Keep in touch.
