About James Expertise I can answer most questions on dating from male or female perspective, straight or gay as i believe every person goes through the same problems in life but on different scales.
Experience I've always given people advice, its something i'm good at, i'm gay and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years,i don't think our relationships perfect but its healthy. I give my female friends advice and they say i'm good because i'm honest, its not always the thing they want to hear but in the end it makes for happiness. My relationship started out long distance and we now live together, so i can give personal advice on a lot of issues which i have dealt with. I'm a nice, polite guy and i'm applying as i really want to help people with personal issues.
Education/Credentials well i attended and passed secondary school (high school) but apart from that its just the school of life, i feel i naturally understand and relate to people, something no education could get you.
Expert: James Date: 6/27/2008 Subject: im begging you! help!!
Question Hey, i'm Katie, I'm 16 and I started dating my boyfriend may 26th of last year. It started great. But then we started fighting. i got mad at him all the time. but the thing is, he put me through alot. he smoked pot, and when i stopped he continued and lied about it, and he really hurt me. we still fight all the time and i break up with him, but then i miss him and we get back. but it goes back the the way it was before. i'm not sure what it is, its like 1 minute i love him to death; the next, i don't want to be with him. hes pretty much whipped, he loves me so much and i'm just not crazy over him as he is for me. but i love him and i don't want to be with anyone. i just don't want to fight all the time, plus i get really bitchy with him (excuse my language). i say things without realizing how mean they can be, and then apologize. hes completely in love with me and i wish i felt that way all the time instead of 50/50. is it because i like a chase and hes just not giving it to me? i've always been after someone who is hard to get. please help! him begging you!
Answer Hi Katie,
I understand what you mean, i don't forget easily and when people put me through a lot i tend to hold a grudge, but all I've found is that leads to me hating them, first you need to forgive him, for your own benefit, so you stop feeling angry. Then start with a clean slate, forget about the break ups and focus on the future. If you still feel the same way i don't think theres a lot i can do to help, you have to remember its ok to break up with someone, and it does hurt and we miss them as we still love them but we know that history will repeat itself and it would happen all over again.
if this hasn't helped please feel free to write back to me
