AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 6/17/2008 Subject: i need advice
Question Hey Ryan, I was reading a lot and found that you could probably answer this the best. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 9 months. We are both 16. We are both in love with each other very much. People may say we're too young to be in love but, we know we're deff. in love. Well, my problem is caused by many other small problems. We are in a long-distance relationship. Neither of us can drive yet, and we live about 45-60 minutes away. Her step-dad is a control freak and took her internet and phone away, so we can barely talk unless she sneaks onto a different computer. She just started to work also, which cuts us back on a lot of talking time. We get to talk around 30 minutes a day over the instant messages if we're lucky. Her step-dad also does not let us see each other very often, and he won't make an effort to meet halfway with my parents or anything. So its very hard to see each other. I love her so much, more than anyone could imagine. But, this summer, is doing a number on our relationship. It feels like its growing very weak, and well, I'm just scared that somethings going to happen and we'll be history. I knew long-distance relationships are hard, but we've made it work for so long until now, its just so complicated now. I just don't know what to do anymore to make it work. I really need her in my life, and she says she needs me. Breaking up is the very last thing we want to do. After the summer, I think all of this will be history and we'll be back to normal. Sorry for the long "question" if you want to call it that. But I really appreciate you giving me advice. Thanks in advance.
-Jon
Answer Jon,
First off, congrats on keeping this relationship going. You're both young, live far apart, and have little communication, that shows something is good if it's still worked out.
I'd try as hard as you can to talk as much as possible, as well as seeing each other. You can send letters back and forth to one another as well, and it'll keep you both happy/in-touch with one another.
Don't think the relationship will end, because worrying too much often leads to the worst. Keep your head up, it sounds like you've been doing a great job thus far.
