AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 6/26/2008 Subject: possibly having sex
Question Hi
I am 16 years old, and met a guy on a family vacation three years ago. He's over a year older than me, and turns 18 in two days. He lives in California, and I live in Massachusetts, but we have kept in touch, talk often, and have seen each other a few times. We spent a lot of time together when we first met, and talk a lot now. I am going to be going to see him when I go to look at colleges next February. At that time I will be 17, and he 18. I'm thinking about having sex with him when I go out there. He will be a freshman in college, and we will be hanging out there, and catching up. I do love him, at least as much as I can. I have never felt as close to someone, or as strongly about someone before in my life. I've told him this, and he has said he loves me as well, and I think he really does. We have talked about sex. He has had sex with one other girl before, and I am a virgin. He's also mentioned blueballs over AIM which just seems like he's kind of pressuring me, but I'm not sure how to deal with that. After we see each other next winter, we probably will not see each other again for a while. I feel so comfortable with him, and I think I'm ready, but I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not, since we wouldn't see each other again for a while, and if something was to happen we live far away from each other, and I'm just not sure.
Thanks
Answer Julie,
Sex is something that you need to think long and hard about. It's a big thing, especially to a young girl, her first is the most important. There are a lot of risks involved with sex, I'm sure you know them, so I'll spare the lecture.
You need to think long and hard about this, and decide if it's what you really want. As for the distance, that will be hard, and you need to discuss that if you two do have sex, it won't be something where he just stops talking to you, or goes out with other girls while you two are apart. Long distance can be tough, so you also need to think about that as well.
