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Expert: Ryan Date: 6/8/2008 Subject: What to do...what to do...
Question Hello! I'm a sophomore in high school and I have a question! So, a couple of days ago, I got my best friend to tell me who he likes, and, (what do ya know!), it's the same person I like! The girl is a mutual friend/co-worker of ours, so it's not like we don't know her or anything. Ever since we told each other that we like the same girl, every conversation we have around her is almost like a competition (which isn't really that bad, just obnoxious, (but kind of fun)).
Anyways, we asked a couple of trustworthy, 20-something friends of ours what to do, and the first thing they said was to duel...then we started hitting each other. Then they said to not let a girl come between our friendship, which we already knew. Then they told me that I should just tell the girl that I like her.
See, I just don't know what to do. I would like to tell the girl that I like her, but I wouldn't know how to. And if I do tell her and she doesn't like me, who knows what could happen to our friendship. And if I don't tell her, ny friend might tell her that he likes her, and who knows what would happen then! I'm not even sure if telling her that I like her is a good idea...
What do you think? Thanks for any help!
Answer Josh,
It's common for friends to like the same person, and common for you to feel this way obviously.
What I'd do is ask your crush to hang out, become better friends, sort of securing your place with her. Your friend can't really feel too upset, because, well, you got to her first. Tell her how you feel after a little while. If not, then like you said, other things may happen with her and your friend, or you'll be left wondering "what if?".
