About Ryan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 7/3/2008 Subject: Dad Doesn't Approve
Question Hey. I have been in a relationship with a girl for almost 8 months now. Everything was going good except for the fact that we could never hangout. She said that her dad would always say no when she asked. About 2 months ago she reveled to me that she had never actually told her dad we were dating. I asked her to please tell him. That when she told me that she was scared of her dad. she told past stories of him abusing her when she was little. She also told me that she is the only person her dad has. She doesn't know her mom.
Well she finally got up the courage to tell him. She told him and at first he was ok, but then she told him I was almost 18, Which I am now, and she is only 16. He Exploded ad screamed at her and took her phone away and told her to never talk to me again. well she talked to the consular at school and she said to do what she felt was right. We still stayed together. She told her dad we broke up.
Well last month she got her phone bill and we had been talking more since school ended. Well.... She went over on her minutes, and her dad asked why. She told him that she still talked to me. Well he did it again and took her phone away. and I haven't heard anything from her in about 4 weeks.
We both love each other and want to stay together, but I graduated, and she still has two years of high school left. We had plans to have sex when she went to my friends house and it would be her first time, we think it might help us show each other that we really do love each other and can get through this.
I need to know what I should do about this? Should I stay with her? Should We do what we planned? I need help.
Thanks!
Answer Matt,
It seems that you're in a tough situation. Parents sometimes don't approve of their kids' dating partners, so it's normal. However, the way her father is acting looks to be a little extreme/controlling.
I'd try to wait it out until you talk to her again. If you can't talk on the phone right now, try an alternate approach. Try IMing if you can, sending her an email/letter, this will get some form of communication open.
When you two do talk, you need to have a heart-to-heart about what's going on with her father.
