AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Question Dear Ryan,
Hi!! whatsup??
My name is Marcus, I'm 16 years old and will be a junior in about a month. I go to an all boys school so girls is not a huge part of my life, which is good because i can focus on academics and mainly football. I wouldnt say Im a player but many girls fall for me. I'm more of a hookup guy than a relationship guy. And thats what it has been for the two years in high school, when i meet a girl i like, i usually just want to fool around and have no strong relationship. Its been like that until i met this girl that changed everything. I met her at a dance and over time we began to come very close with eachother. we began dating but i broke up after a few weeks because she lives 40 miles away from me and I never saw her. Few months of no-talking passed and we began to interact with eachother again. We have known eachother for about a year now, and we are very very close with eachother. She's everything i ever wanted and i love being with her and talking to her. She is the first girl that makes me feel this way like im in love ( i know that sounds kinda cheesy cuz im only 16). but theres a problem, she has a boyfriend. She has been dating him for over half a year. However, she tells me she likes him, but shes crazy about me and wants to be with me. I know the guys she is dating and we are real cool with eachother. Well, she has been cheating on him with me for the past month or so. I dont know, I feel bad that i am basically sharing her body, mind, and soul with some other guy and i feel as though she is only for me but i know after her and I fool around, she goes back home to her boyfriend and does the same thing. God i dont know what to do, she is amazing and i love her to death but I feel like im being used and I feel like no one should do the same thing that im doing to the girl i have fallin for. She will always be my friend and be close with me but I just cant do this. Plus im scared if we go back dating, she will cheat on me and will not tell me at all....sometimes i feel like it would of been best if i havnt met her...
Help!!
Answer Marcus,
What I'd do is sit her down and talk with her next time you can. You don't want to be "that guy" who does thing with a girl when she has a boyfriend, it's just not right.
You're feeling used because she's doing the same thing with her boyfriend that she's doing with you, and it's hard. You kind of need to have her, or just be friends, there really is no in-between, feelings get too caught up.
So, when you talk, tell her how you're feeling. I'm sure you don't want to break up her relationship, if it's going to end, it needs to end because she wants it to, not because she's cheating with you.
