About James Expertise I can answer most questions on dating from male or female perspective, straight or gay as i believe every person goes through the same problems in life but on different scales.
Experience I've always given people advice, its something i'm good at, i'm gay and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years,i don't think our relationships perfect but its healthy. I give my female friends advice and they say i'm good because i'm honest, its not always the thing they want to hear but in the end it makes for happiness. My relationship started out long distance and we now live together, so i can give personal advice on a lot of issues which i have dealt with. I'm a nice, polite guy and i'm applying as i really want to help people with personal issues.
Education/Credentials well i attended and passed secondary school (high school) but apart from that its just the school of life, i feel i naturally understand and relate to people, something no education could get you.
Question I work with this girl that I asked out she actually asked me out first then I asked her out on a date a week later because when she asked me out I had a cold and I wanted to wait. She is 24 I’m 23 she has two kids a 7 year old and a 1 year old. Now she is telling me she doesn’t have any free time to go out because with a full time work and 2 kids are a handful she told me she thought she could date but now she realizes she can’t she would like to but she can’t and she needs to tend to her two kids. Her son does a lot of sports and she goes to all his games baseball, basketball. I want to spend time with her so rather than going out on a date with just her where she won’t be able to so is it okay to ask her if it is okay with her that I would like to take her and her kids to the zoo, or aquarium, or museum, or a baseball game as her 7 year old son loves baseball something like that. I have not even gone out with her once yet so is it weird or a stupid thing to ask her this I don’t know I want to spend time with her but I know she is being a good mother I thought if the only way to spend time with her is to spend time with her kids the same time as she is always with them and spending time with them. I don’t know what do you think stupid move will she think this is weird that I haven’t spend time with her once and I’m asking to spend time with her the first time with her and her kids.
Answer Thomas,
I think thats sweet and sounds like a great idea, it shows your looking at this seriously. I'm sure she will love the idea that you care about her enough to spend time with her and her children as, lets admit it, kids can be a handful. She may still say no as she may really not be ready for dating, but she will still think it is a great idea and in no way creepy.
