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Question I work with this girl that I asked out she actually asked me out first then I asked her out on a date a week later because when she asked me out I had a cold and I wanted to wait. She is 24 I’m 23 she has two kids a 7 year old and a 1 year old. Now she is telling me she doesn’t have any free time to go out because with a full time work and 2 kids are a handful she told me she thought she could date but now she realizes she can’t she would like to but she can’t and she needs to tend to her two kids. Her son does a lot of sports and she goes to all his games baseball, basketball. I want to spend time with her so rather than going out on a date with just her where she won’t be able to so is it okay to ask her if it is okay with her that I would like to take her and her kids to the zoo, or aquarium, or museum, or a baseball game as her 7 year old son loves baseball something like that. I have not even gone out with her once yet so is it weird or a stupid thing to ask her this I don’t know I want to spend time with her but I know she is being a good mother I thought if the only way to spend time with her is to spend time with her kids the same time as she is always with them and spending time with them. I don’t know what do you think stupid move will she think this is weird that I haven’t spend time with her once and I’m asking to spend time with her the first time with her and her kids.
Answer hi thomas,
honestly i don't think its weird at all. it's obvious you like this girl and i think part of what you really like about her is that she's such a good mother. she puts her children above herself and that kind of unselfishness is a rare quality, you know? i think that you could definitely ask to take her and her kids out. she might not want to think of it as a date so treat it as a casual thing. let her know that you genuinely want to spend time getting to know her and it doesn't have to be a first date right away. my guess is, she's worried about putting herself on the line when she has two children who depend on her. so if she gets to know you as more than just a potential boyfriend but as a good friend that she can trust, she might end up making time to go out with you. in the end, she wants to know that you're not going to be a waste of her time and that you're a genuinely good person who accepts the fact that her children come first.
