About James Expertise I can answer most questions on dating from male or female perspective, straight or gay as i believe every person goes through the same problems in life but on different scales.
Experience I've always given people advice, its something i'm good at, i'm gay and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years,i don't think our relationships perfect but its healthy. I give my female friends advice and they say i'm good because i'm honest, its not always the thing they want to hear but in the end it makes for happiness. My relationship started out long distance and we now live together, so i can give personal advice on a lot of issues which i have dealt with. I'm a nice, polite guy and i'm applying as i really want to help people with personal issues.
Education/Credentials well i attended and passed secondary school (high school) but apart from that its just the school of life, i feel i naturally understand and relate to people, something no education could get you.
Expert: James Date: 7/19/2008 Subject: Our Relationship Is More Than Skin Deep
Question Okay, I'm 15 almost 16. My boyfriend is 18. We've been dating for a year and 2 months and I am so in love with him. The problem is, my mom found out that I was dating him from an ex-friend of mine who told her I was pregnant. (which is NOT true) I'm a virgin and will remain that way until I am married. But anyway, my mom found out we were dating and took away every bit of communication I had with him. She took my cell phone, my computer, and threatened to press charges against him. He has a past for drugs and a few other things but he is clean now. His mom made him move to another state to keep him out of trouble. I was able to sneak and call him occasionally from friend's phones and it worked for about 2 months. Then, we broke up because he got back on drugs and I told him I would not put up with that. He got straightened out and we began talking again 2 months later.. That's when I found out he had another girlfriend. He told me he didn't want to lose either of us because he loved us both equally but I didn't buy into that, so I told him he had to choose. He chose me. I'm to the point right now where I don't care what my parents do to me.. I just want to be with him. The only thing I'm having trouble understanding right now is why he isn't here.. he's 18 and has a car.. Why isn't he here? I wonder if I'm just wasting my time on him, I try to remain content about everything hoping it will be the way it used to before my parents got involved. Now, his cell phone has been turned off and I have no idea where he is, how he's doing, or if he's even alive. The only communication I have with him at all is through his cousin who is "in love" with me and doesn't want us together at all. I'm so scared and I'm not one to show my feelings and I'm still kind of skeptical about these advice things.. but I don't know what else to do. Do you think you could help?..or is this too much to take in? Thanks for your time.
Answer Hey ya Stephanie,
This guy sounds a little bit of a mess in my opinion, you sound like such a nice, well rounded, responsible, young adult and you deserve a lot better treatment, and i will tell you why i think he isn't good for you; he doesn't care about your feelings enough to call you and keep in touch, he wanted to date another girl along with you and only chose you because you made him choose and yes he should be visiting you, he has no excuse! in my opinion he will never stop the drugs and your wasting your time trying. This is only my opinion and you should follow your heart but i feel you are a special girl who deserves more.
Write back if you need, i will try my best to help.
James
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PS sorry about taking a long time to reply, I've only just got the Internet back after moving.
