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Experience I know all about being a teenager. i was one and right now at twenty four, I have three siblings who are going through the same thing.
Education/Credentials currently a post grad law student
Question My 15 year old daughter liked a real good christian boy, but recently has been more drawn to an ex boyfriend that treated her badly. She knows that she can't date the ex boyfriend. The good boy still likes her alot and he likes spending time with her dad. She knows that we have to like the boy and his parents to date him. She says he is too nice to her. I don't know what to do or say. Please help!!
Answer hi deanna,
i think your daughter may just feel this nice boy is being pushed onto her because you like him so much. i know that's not what you and your husband are doing but when you're a teenage girl that's not how you see it.
i think that you can still be firm about the ex-boyfriend but maybe not tell your daughter so much about how good the other guy is. in other words, give her your opinion but don't make it seem like you only want her to date this boy. encourage her to be friends with him but when you tell her that's boyfriend material is will sound like you're not hearing what she's saying but you want her to think what you think. i hope that made some sense.
another thing, teenagers at this stage don't want to date guys who their parents like to spend time with too. i know this is a requirement but if this guy hangs around too much with your husband then it becomes like a family outing and your daughter won't want to get to know this guy at all because it will feel like her parents are setting her up.
and maybe this guy could try to show her how he feels on his own. let him court her and show her on his own that he's a great guy and that having her parents like him is only one reason why she should go out with him
