About James Expertise I can answer most questions on dating from male or female perspective, straight or gay as i believe every person goes through the same problems in life but on different scales.
Experience I've always given people advice, its something i'm good at, i'm gay and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years,i don't think our relationships perfect but its healthy. I give my female friends advice and they say i'm good because i'm honest, its not always the thing they want to hear but in the end it makes for happiness. My relationship started out long distance and we now live together, so i can give personal advice on a lot of issues which i have dealt with. I'm a nice, polite guy and i'm applying as i really want to help people with personal issues.
Education/Credentials well i attended and passed secondary school (high school) but apart from that its just the school of life, i feel i naturally understand and relate to people, something no education could get you.
Expert: James Date: 7/7/2008 Subject: dating/relationships
Question Hi. My name is Jenny and I’m 15 years old. So I have a friend and lets just name him Bob. So I met Bob last year during the summer right before my first year of high school started. We've gotten really close and he's really nice. He had a girlfriend (let's name her Carla). Carla's mom made her break up with Bob near the end of the school year. A few days ago, Bob asked me if I liked him. I said that I wasn't sure. I've thought about him that way before, but I didn't say anything since he was going out with Carla. I'm not sure exactly how I feel now. Yesterday, I told him that I sort of had an answer. I told him that I liked him a lot but it wasn't exactly i love you thing yet. I guess he felt similar to how I did. What I found out was that he had gotten back together with Carla.. But the way he talked made it seem like he didn't want to go out with her. Carla must have asked to go out again and Bob must have said yes because he didn't want to make her feel bad.. So I'm planning on talking to him later today about how he feels about her exactly and how I feel about him being uncommitted to his relationship with her... (is that a good idea?) I'm thinking that I should give him a chance since I know him really well (and he's not a bad guy).. but of course he has to make up his mind about Carla because I'm not gonna let him cheat on her..
...any advice on anything I've said?.. should I go out with him?.. or should I wait until we get closer?
Answer Hi Jenny,
I wouldn't accuse him of not loving her as that may make him a little upset, but i would tell him the truth, that you like him and your sad he's back with her. He seems a good friend and could handle you telling him your feelings, you could also go as far as asking him his feelings for you and if he would prefer to be in a relationship with you. I hope you can get together as you both seem to like each other a lot. Hope this helped a little.
