AboutSandi Expertise I can answer most types of question dealing with teens and preteens. I can give advice on dating, love, sex, friendships, same sex relationships. I am experienced at most preteen & teen subjects and have given advice to many people before. Who better to give advice to teens as being one myself?
Experience I'm a teen girl and have been in many relationships, both with guys and girls. I've been in many different situations and can give you great advice.
Question Ok, so this girl Jenny and I, both fifteen, have started liking each other quite a bit. We both know this, yet we’re not officially “going out”. Apparently she gets extremely worried that I don’t like her any more when I don’t respond to her emails immediately, which sort of unsettles me because it sort of seems like she and I have different wants for this relationship to be. She also apparently secretly wants to start a family, which completely creeps me out, as we haven’t even started going out. I don’t know if it’s just some secret fantasy or what, but I’m not sure if a relationship would be healthy for her, as there have been other things such as wanting to go with me on vacation that just sort of worry me. I want to have a balanced life, with the relationship as a part of it, but she seems to be wholly dependent on a relationship that hasn’t even started yet. Is this a problem at all, or am I just overanalyzing things? If it is, I really think we should talk about it together, and try to make it work, but I’m not entirely sure how I would go about doing that.
Another thing is that we’re both in drumline camp together all of next week, and it gets really awkward whenever we’re around each-other. She also sort of follows me around everywhere, which is great, but it can get sort of weird when I’m trying to spend some time with my friends. I hope I don’t sound selfish, because I always feel bad whenever I go hang out with my friends whenever she’s around. But as I said, I really don’t want this to consume my life, as I’ve seen it happen to many of my good friends. And I don’t really know how to work this into anything, so I’ll just ask it: How can I escape from those really awkward moments without seeming like I don’t want to be around her? Because there’s been many an awkward time where we’re just standing there awkwardly, but neither of us really knows how to leave. It’s almost like I/we feel obligated to spend all our time around each-other, which unsettles me due to the whole balance thing. I really don’t want to sound like I don’t want to be around her, it’s just that I want balance between being with her, and doing other stuff.
It may be worth noting that this will hopefully be my first real relationship, so I have no idea about any of this stuff.
Answer i think you should find a good time to sit down with her and lay out what you want from a relationship if you two were to start dating. you have to be completely open and honest with her. if she wants a family then you should run fast. you both are way to young to even think about that. good luck and please let me know if you want to talk more,
