AboutSuzi Zimmerman Expertise I am a teacher and I write books on teen dating, self-esteem, and values. I can answer questions on making healthy choices, self-improvement, liking yourself, relationships and friendships, goal-setting, values, and how to handle making difficult choices.
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Expert: Suzi Zimmerman Date: 8/17/2008 Subject: im stuck between two loves
Question My Ex-girlfriend is coming up from Long-Island next week...
But theres a big catch.
(o and before we begin, im sorry about the length, its very comlicated for me. and i apoligize for the english, im from Italy)
When we met, about two years ago (we were both 16), at a school dance she came up to me, scared out of her wits, and asked me too dance.
I said yes, and through the song, she was shaking, we got closer, and held (which i guess your not supposed to do there lol). I thought it was cute as hell, especially, because normally girls like her were way out of my league. (and yes, it was a good thing, not cuz she was like disgusted lol)
Then after that night we started going out for about 5months, it was like pure love. i had never felt that way about a girl before.
The only problem was she dated casually, a sh!t load of guys, but never really did more than a simple kiss (other than one). I ended up to be the one that hit she hard for. Next thing i knew, she was moving, she cried on the fone and we decided it was best to split. (even though she didnt move away for like 3 months, we thought, better start now.) Even through we were not together, we continued to date other people. and even though its was cheating, we'd still just meet and just hold each other for what felt like minutes, although was hours, lol. Two year later, and not one night forgetting eachother apparently, i was 10months into another relationship. again love. we hit it off perfect. and just kept the exite-ment on... but the thing was, she just wasnt that cute, but she was cute enough to love tehe. but not like my ex. whom was a drop-dead gorgeos girl. Two days ago, she got my cell # from a freind of mine, and called me up. i felt like i was going to breakdown on the fone, after not talking to her for what felt like forever (im usually type of guy, that doesnt feel that way about anything. growing up around drugs, and mafia buizness in Italy then NY). She told me that she was coming up next week, and even though i currently have a girlfriend, i feel as if theres no way i can go without hugging her and most likely giving a few kisses (even though its wrong i can garentee it). im 19 now, and shes about to turn the same. but i cant stop and think about my current girlfriend. Now im stuck between my two loves. and i cant decide. im probly about as clueless as you guys. i have an option of going with my ex, whom i dearly love, and shes the perfect lookking girl, with just the right personality, and maitenence. i mean shes a little bit spoiled too me, but she is all definatly gratefull for it. and by the way if i forgot to say, her name is Sabrina. My current girlfriend is named Ashley whom is French. Now when she comes up she is going to move up here in Vermont, about 30min away by car, but my current gf, is about 20min by bike. she is the one that ive devoted most of my time two, and shes going through some family issues with her mom splitting with her stepdad. so i cant decide. Ex, or current? beautifull Vs brain. fun too be around Vs fun too be around in any situation. cute blonde Vs cute brunette. the one that i feel like i can go anywere with (and were even planning to run away together) Vs going back to my home town in Italy (which im not to uber exited about, but atleast im comfterbull).
P.S (is that how you say??) either girl, i will be with as long as we wish.
**edit**
Sabrina gets easily manipulated by other guys, and ashley just stares badly at them. (not because shes awing, shes just not good at keeping it hidden lol)
Answer Jason, thank you for your cadid question.
First, as you probably already know, looks fade or can be taken away quickly, but a person's personality is inside them. For the most part, it's there for life. In other words, allowing a girl's beauty or looks to play a part in whether or not you stay with her is kind of childish. You'll see young men doing it all the time, but mature guys - guys who have really learned to love with their hearts and not their eyes - don't care about that kind of thing.
I can't help you pick between the two girls, but I can tell you how to recognize true love. She's your best friend. There are times she'll make you angry, but you'll find a way to get back to her. You will feel devotion to her, and you'll never question her devotion to you. There is no "forcing" the relationship; it's just a good fit. You don't want her to change, and she doesn't want you to change. It's simple, uncomplicated, and comfortable.
Now you have to evaluate your two loves. No one else can do that part for you. Close your eyes to appearances and focus on what's important. Which girl would you want to be with at 80 and at all points leading up to that? Which girl would you want raising your children? Which girl do you want taking care of you when you have the flu, and which do you want to take care of when she's sick?
