AboutJoanne Expertise I am a teenager myself, so I can relate to most questions a troubled teen may ask. I can answer questions like: "What does he/she mean when they said this?" or questions like: "What should I do about this?"
Experience I have seen and helped loved ones through many teen dating problems myself so I am quite experienced in this area (If I do say so myself ^^), I know how to break up with people gently, and how to go up to someone alone. I would be glad to help anyone I can.
Expert: Joanne Date: 8/5/2008 Subject: How can i speak to girls if i have low self steem ?
Question I'm 18 male teen and i am have sooo low self esteem that it's killing my chances of meeting girls. I'm decent looking & tall but always put myself down. For example, yesterday i went to a barbecue party & i saw some pretty girls. But for all the time there, i kept thinkin that they wouldn't be interested or i didn't know what to say.I think i saw them looking at me a few times but i thought nothing of it. And when i left, i felt very sad / dissapointed with myself cos i kept talking my self out of it.
I'm afraid i will be like this for 4ever.
What advice would you give to someone like me ?
Answer Hey there,
Ah, I see where you are coming from. Self esteem issues are something you deal with on your own. You have to build it up little by little, and soon, it will be easy to talk to anyone! Something you could do is constantly push yourself. Take that BBQ party for example, next time, just say "Do it Dani, just do it. Who cares what happens" You may be afraid to do something like that because of the chance of rejection, so drag a buddy along and team up if there is a group of girls, then you can single one out later. Give yourself a little more credit, you know you are decent looking and that's all that matters. Act like you know, but don't go too far or you'll come off as cocky, and that's not what you want. Good luck!
