Expert: David - 10/25/2009

Question
I have been friends with this guy named Jared for 2 years now (I'm a sophomore now) and we are really close. We talk and text almost everyday, he comes to my practices, he helps me carry my stuff, and we hug. I'm also good friends with his sister. Well a couple weeks ago his sister told my other best friend, Helena, that he liked me a lot and that he was planning on asking me to homecoming. So of course Helena tells me this and I was shocked cause I never really though about him that way. But as homecoming started to get closer I started to like him too so I told him that I knew that he liked me and I was okay with it. But then things got awkward and he stopped waiting for me at my locker and coming to my practices. Homecoming also came and he never asked me. What should I do? Does he still like me? Should I make the move? This is so confusing! SOS! HELP ME!


Answer
Lauren,
I have a feeling that you came on a little too strong. Although he may have liked you, I don't have much doubt that he liked you, you may have scared him away, for now. I don't think you need me to tell you but he was doing a lot for you and showing you a lot of positive signs; him carrying your stuff as one example. By going up to him and telling him that you know something and making an absolute statement probably took him a little by surprise. It may be hard but for a little while you may have to lay low and not do much. Yes you should still show him signs that you like him but there is nothing you can do right now to make him change his mind. This is a psychological thing with him because you may have been a little too forward with him. That said, you can't make him the only guy in your life. Don't only focus on him because, take it from me, a current High School Senior, you shouldn't pigeonhole yourself in High School relationships because you should just have fun.

I'm not quite sure what else to tell you but if you need any other help I would be more than happy to assist.

Best,
David