About Deborah Expertise I can help you with questions about your relationships. For example, I can help you decide whether or not it is a good idea to date a certain person, if they are much older or younger than yourself. I can help you regarding sexuality, what is healthy, what is not, how to say no, how to know if you are in love, etc.
Experience I had many relationships in high school, and as a teen in general. I know what the outcomes of certain situations will be, as I have been through them myself. I know the dangers of dating people who are not the right age. I have experience with situations regarding sex, also.
Education/Credentials I have a bachelor's Degree Psychology and Biology, and am halfway through a Master's Degree, also in Biology. I have access to and read many of the top medical journals, from which I also get the best, most thorough and accurate to answers to pressing interpersonal, sexual, medical and health related questions.
Question I am 16 years old and i have a boyfriend that is 17. We have been together for about a year and 3 months but we have known each other for about 4 years. We have had many ups and downs in our relationship. We have broken up twice mostly because we thought we werent ready to stay together. But we end up together again because we realize that we cant live w/o one another. Now that we are back together for the 3rd time, he started acting weird with me. I asked him what was wrong and he said that since I hurt him so much last time we broke up that he had "lost his feelings" towards me. I still love him to death and he says that he doesn't want to break up because he wants to be with me and that maybe one day he will love me again. I really want to stay with him for the rest of my life. I just need him to love me just as i love him. Should we break up once more or should i stay with him and wait for him to love me again and get back to the way things used to be?
(PS Im his first girlfriend but he says that he doesnt want to meet anyone else. He just wants to be with me.)
Please help!
Answer Dear Rebecca,
Don't stay with him in hopes of him falling back in love with you. That never works. You need to break up and move on with your life. If sometime in the future his feelings change, and if you still love him, you can get back together then.
You are very young and it would be best if you dated other people also.
