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I'm the guy people go to for relationship advice. I'm the shoulder to cry on. I'm the one who's lost and found love. I've dated. I've been lied to about numerous things. I know how it feels to get hurt, however I also know how it feels to recover. I know what love is, and how to take care of it. I know what it feels like to be scared to approach a girl, how it feels to think too much about what's going on, and what that pain in the pit of your stomach feels like. I've been in trouble before, and I know how to get back on my feet. With me, I guarantee you that you will get the real answer.

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Teen Dating Issues - What Should I Do?

Expert: Jet Rockefeller - 10/23/2009

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QUESTION: The first time we looked at each other was when I was getting stuff out of my locker and I looked to the left and he was staring at me. We looked at each other for a couple of seconds. He looked away and I returned to what I was doing. After that, we would stare at each other every day.

So me and this guy have been staring and glancing at each other in the halls since freshman year. I started to like him even more when he ended up in one of my classes sophomore year. We would stare at each other each class. When we were in a group one time, he wouldn't look me in the eye when we talked one on one. When we see each other in the halls, he would smile at me sometimes but I never smiled back. I'm really shy. His friends would stare with him. It's really overwhelming because sometimes when I walked into the hall, every one of his friends would turn to look at me.

It looked like he wanted to approach me a couple times because he would walk toward me but then stop for a couple of seconds and turn around. He's had a couple of girlfriends so I thought he'd be used to approaching but I guess not. Actually, a few of his girlfriends were his friends at first.

It seems like his friends know about it because they give me the I-know-something-you-don't look. One time, when he was with his friends, one of his friends elbowed him when they saw me and they both smiled. He's really outgoing so I don't know why he wouldn't approach me. When I talked to him near the end of the year, we were staring at each other's eyes intensely. His voice got really soft too. He never approached me once. We've only talked like three times. He ended up going with another girl during the summer.

They broke up and now we're back to staring at each other again. He's in one of my classes again. We smile at each other across the room something funny happens. One time he was walking toward me like he wanted to talk to me but then stopped midway when I looked at him.

So, I really don't know what to do. Should I give him more signals to approach me? Even though I'm shy, I was thinking of approaching him myself because I'm sick of doing nothing. I just don't want him to end up with another girl. Sorry, this is long lol.

ANSWER: Hi Shy Girl,

All signs point to him having an interest in you... so why not take advantage of that if you feel the same way? I know you're shy... but treat it as though he is just a person to get along with for now and you will develop a relationship that way. The most important thing to have when dealing with a crush is confidence. Usually, a relationship will spark if even just one person has confidence, but neither of you do right now. You may want him to make the first move which is understandable- but if you're sick of doing nothing, then make it more clear how you feel about him by talking to him more often! If you don't want to lose him to another girl, you have to be willing to make the move. You can't go wrong.

Let me know if you would like further clarification on anything. I am available for follow ups. Good luck.

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QUESTION: Ok. So I have been planning to approach him in class but all three times, I never got to. First time, he was absent. Second time, I didn't get to because it'd be weird to just come up to his desk and talk to him. Third time, the bell rang too early..So I was thinking of approaching him maybe in the halls when I see him..but then I don't know what I would talk about.

Would confessing about knowing the attraction between us..be too forward? I wouldn't know what to say if I just approached him suddenly. Nice shirt? lol

Answer
There isn't much to having a normal conversation with a regular person. (I know he isn't regular in your eyes, but the idea is to make yourself feel as if he was). This can ease your nervousness of trying to talk to him. Do you ever get the opportunity to talk to him where it wouldn't seem awkward? You could also invite him to hang out on the weekend when you have something planned with a group of friends. Also, if you happen to be around when he's talking... listen to what he has to say. You can easily play off of that and give feedback. Start a conversation with him by sharing your own opinions on what he says. Make this a regular thing and you two will crush the awkwardness in no time.

Let me know if you would like clarification on anything.

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