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Experience I know all about being a teenager. i was one and there's nothing i love more than helping and listening to those who need a someone to listen to them.
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Question Hey...I was wondering if you can help me out.
I am a guy--straight--- and my best friend is a girl. Her name is Sarah.
Sarah and I have been best friends for the past 4 years and pretty much know
everything about each other. We have always been there for each other and
we have both have separate crushes (on other people). We have helped each
other through the ups and downs of teenage life and some how survived. :) I
have never had feelings for her (besides brother/sister caring-love) until
now. Recently at a party that we were both at, she looked amazing (better
than usual) and we were dancing--respectfully/not grinding, and having a
really fun time. She usually flirts with me in the sense of resting head on
shoulder, comments and so on. I can't tell if she has feelings for me?! I have
been "googling" to see if I can find a answer to see if she likes me but I have
not been able to find the right answer. She is really sweet, and I am a really
good listener. We click as friends, but I am not sure if we click more than
that? Do you know what I mean?
I don't want to lose her as a friend, but then if she was my girlfriend than that
would be 10 times better. I have had a girlfriend in the past, and she seemed
okay with that. (Past=1 year ago only for 2months) She helped me get over
her breakup with me and I helped her with all the different crushes she has
had. She says that I couldn't have been a better boyfriend---sincerely too.
I am very confused... whether she likes me or not, whether finding out is
worth it, because I really like her.
Please help....
Daniel
Answer hey daniel,
i'm a firm believer that the best relationships are the ones that just come naturally - and what could be more natural than a solid friendship?
the fact that you and sarah are so close shows that you're both comfortable around each other and that yout trust each other immensely. it's only natural that you're wondering about what it would be like if you were more. and it's clear that you're attracted to her and if sarah is flirting with you, chances are she's attracted to you as well.
i can understand that you're hesitant about putting your friendship at risk but if you have feelings for your best friend i say go for it. she of all people would see that you have the potential to be a good boyfriend because she knows you so well.
take it slow for now. if you're not positive that you 'click' as more than friends than start by going out not on actual dates but hanging out just the two of you. in subtle ways try to show your boyfriend aspect - like being chivalrous, taking care of her being sweet etc. see how she reacts. that'll give you an indication of what she might feel about you.
lastly, don't be afraid. i know it can be overwhelming and confusing at times to have feelings and questions about someone you're so close to, but if you allow yourself this chance to see if it could be something more, it's so worth it.
