Expert: Nicole - 6/22/2009

Question
My boyfriends broke up with me 2 months ago and I tryed to be friends with him  but hes being really mean about it and i just can't get over him. Everyday i just cry and I'm miserable. I don't know what to do. I need help.

Answer
Yasmin,

Just so you know you are a normal girl for getting upset over a break-up! It is always tough for us, especially when we still want the person back. First of all you should try one last time. Tell him you really want him in your life but you aren't going to keep chasing him. If he wants to be friends or even something more this is his chance. If he says no, then move on! I find that feeling sorry for myself and thinking about things I had or things I'll never get makes me feel horrible. You need to change your point of view from being sad about him and miserable about your life. Think about everything positive. Your family, friends, activities, school.. Anything else in your life that makes you happy. For everything that makes us unhappy there will always be something that makes us smile. Next time you start thinking about him, make plans with friends or family. Show yourself that you are better than this. You are better than letting a boy control your happiness! Do things for you - not someone else. Good luck sweetie and remember to think positively!

Nicole