About Nicole Expertise I can answer questions about teen/early adult relationships. Anything from first dates to sex and everything in between! I'll also help you out with all those tricky things like how your bf/gf gets along with your family and friends.
Experience I am 20 years old in a great 2 year relationship. I am lucky enough to have been surrounded by happy supportive couples growing up.
Education/Credentials I am a A student specializing in psychology.
You seem like you know what you're talking about. I hope you can help me with my worrying lol. I'm 18, and this guy who I've been dating for like a month and a half, is 19 and is in the navy. He's sweet, says he always thinks about me, makes me poems, and always calls me when he can. The long distance thing isn't the problem though lol. He does joke too much sometimes, I've told him that. Most of the jokes are "sexual ones."
My problem is, I'm a virgin, he's not. He was actually my 1st kiss.. and I don't want to rush things. I've already have gone as far as "phone sex" with him, already! I seem to be the jumpy one in the relationship. He said he's had sex about 4 times. I don't know if it was with the same girl or not for sure. They were only dating for 2 months too! Sometimes I feel pressured, though he says he'd wait for me. I just feel awkward because he's had sex and I haven't. and I'm confused about continuing the intimacy as far as it's been going. I don't know if I should go back to just making out or what. I value my virginity. I wanted to wait for mr. right. Its probably stupid that i'm upset over him not being a virgin.
Basically, are there any words of advice for confusion about my intimacy? Should I even feel awkward being with him because he’s not a virgin? And be jealous over his ex girlfriend because they got so “close?” Hope my question wasn’t too long lol. Thank you.
Answer Hey Kari. I'm so sorry for the late reply.. and also thank you for the compliment! Okay first of all don't feel bad for thinking these things - it is totally normal. However, you should know that you DON'T need to be jealous of his ex-girlfriend. Yes they have had sex but so what? Is he with her? No. He is with you. Obviously what she gave him in the rest of the relationship wasn't good enough for him. Take pride in the fact that he is with you and you two are not sexually active. Shows how amazing of a person you must be, right? You can make up for them having sex by being a better girlfriend in general - that is pretty impressive. Now onto the next question. No you don't need to feel awkward at all. He isn't some jerk guy who expects you to know what you're doing. You've already said he is sweet and writes you poems, and most importantly, waits for you. That is a really great thing that he doesn't pressure you so just make sure you let him know how happy you are that he treats you so well. And remember: If you love your virginity and want to keep it then never let a guy take that away from you if you aren't ready. Even if he is this sweet guy, you will regret it. Wait until you're ready! Good luck and stay positive about all this.
