Expert: Nicole - 6/18/2009

Question
I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. Our past is a bit bumpy. He made up with someone I know when we were on a break (that's all I know for sure) and I made out with someone after we had broken up for a little while. This is all about 3 years ago. I had some trust issues for a while and now have over come them, but he tells me he doesn't trust me all the time, up to now. He always thinks I am doing something wrong and says he wished he could break up with me,  but can't cause he loves me to much. I am honestly not doing anything wrong at all. I don't go out, all I do is see him, work, and hang out with one of my friends. I felt so guilty for hurting him in the past I stop talking to more then half my friends because he doesn't like them. My friend thinks I should break up with him, but honestly I am scared I have been with him since highschool, he is such a huge part of my life and I love him even though I am so angry with him. I feel like I have given him everything and gave up so much for him to trust me and nothing it working. All he says is that he is trying to trust me again. I don't know if he is being honest about the trust issue or is it something that is just easy to hold against me. I am getting so frustrated because I really truly am not doing anything! What should I do??

Answer
Hey Jane, this is really tough. It is always so hard to decide when enough is enough. I feel that if he is making you feel so frustrated and telling you that you are doing things you obviously aren't then he is not being good to you. Why be in a relationship when the other person constantly thinks they are better and are telling you they can't trust you when you are doing nothing wrong? I don't know how your relationship is when it is good but judging by the fact that everyone tells you to dump him and that he has made you lose half your friends..maybe you should end it. It has to be your call though. If he makes you happy 90% of the time and this is just some tricky subject, then you guys should sit down and try and work through it. Figure out how much effort you are willing to spend on fixing these problems before you make your decision. Good luck!