AboutFaith Expertise I understand crushes, first loves, heartaches, heart breaks... how it feels to cope with school work, peer pressure, family issues...everyone has different experiences but i will always try to help you with yours.
Experience I know all about being a teenager. i was one and there's nothing i love more than helping and listening to those who need a someone to listen to them.
Education/Credentials currently a post grad law student
Question QUESTION: Hi Faith my name is oliver and i am 14 years old and i really need your help. Right so theres this girl who i have known for the best part of 2 years who i have a major crush on. But she is so unpredictable. Like 1 day she will be looking into my eyes loads and she will flirt a bit in some cases a lot. But then the next day she will just not even notice me and it leaves me upset and sometimes a bit depressed thinking what have i done wrong. She has also went out with 1 or 2 of my mates.
I think that she knows that i like her but having sed that i aint to sure. On Msn i am usually the 1 that starts the conversion. I have had a fare few crushes but have never dated lol but i have never felt this way about any other girl before and i really like her so i guess what im asking is 1. Taking everything into do you think she likes me do i have a shot with her 2. How can i slowly let her know im interested in her. 3. Some flirting tips. Thank you 4 your time and i am so sorry if its long but i hope you can help
ANSWER: hi ollie,
it sounds like this girl is just enjoying having fun and having guys like her. a lot of girls can tell if a guy likes them but they don't really do anything about it until the guy does.
i think she flirts with you because she likes you - most girls won't bother to do so with a guy they don't like. but at the same time, she might not be looking for a serious boyfriend right now.
if you really like her, you need to take that risk and ask her out. in other words, don't do things that make it seem like you like her - be direct. that's the only way for sure to get a response from her as to whether or not she likes you back as more than a friend.
you could try to go slowly like paying her extra attention etc but it sounds like you've already done that so maybe it's time to take it a step further, eh?
good luck!
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QUESTION: First of all thank you so much for answering my Question. I definitely agree about being more direct and that. But im a bit scared. I mean ive never done anything like it so have you got any tips for being a bit direct asking her out etc? Also im on crutches at the mo and she even took my bags to my science lesson is this a gud sign cheers
Answer hey ollie,
i'd say that's a very good sign. at the very least she's a nice enough person who probably wouldn't mind getting to know you a bit better.
the best advice i can give you about how to act is just be natural. girls can usually tell when a guy is trying to hard or is acting differently from the way you usually do.
as hard as it is, don't be nervous! just take deep breaths and don't let yourself be freaked out because you like her. in fact, psyche yourself into thinking she's just a regular girl who's a friend. you don't have trouble talking to your gal buddies right? don't let this be different even if she is different. that way you'll act naturally and you'll make her comfortable too.
and start off with simple topics. ask her how her day has been, what her plans for the weekend are or how she's doing in school. be friendly and then work your way up to being romantic.
