About Nicole Expertise I can answer questions about teen/early adult relationships. Anything from first dates to sex and everything in between! I'll also help you out with all those tricky things like how your bf/gf gets along with your family and friends.
Experience I am 20 years old in a great 2 year relationship. I am lucky enough to have been surrounded by happy supportive couples growing up.
Education/Credentials I am a A student specializing in psychology.
Question QUESTION: Hey...This is my 1st time writing here~ I'm a 17 year old boy..Lets get down to my problem......Its about my relationship with my girlfriend..Well, she is the same age with me and has a habit of texting her message short, but that is not the matter...We've been a couple for 8 months now..^^
Anyway..We use to be a happy go lucky couple and we usually do things together and care for each other very well..Example when i suddenly get sick, she would text me how are u 'hubby'? or something sweet...And then we always text and call each other almost 24/7....This honeymoon just lasted for 4-5 months.
The last 3 months, she suddenly acted very weird..I feel like she is ignoring me or something.....She call me and text me lesser than before...I began suffering because of this problem and i can't concentrate on my studies and i cant get enough of sleep..I even lost weight due to my lost of appetite...When i wanted 2 confronted her through text message about this matter, she's like wanna escape something and keep telling she is tired or she's busy kinda excuse.....Is it me or is her wanna break up with me?
I love her more than anything...I always have a feeling of losing her and that increases my sufferings more....I think if this goes on....I might do something crazy~
When i ask her if she still misses me or loves me, she would say yes.... I trust her cause i love her, too! Then i found out that her father is a bad tempered man...Her father warn her to get good result in the upcoming exam if not he would slap the hell out of her....How could a father do this to his daughter?! Her father likes coming back home drunk and scold her.....
Maybe this was the answer of why suddenly she like ignore me so much?... I just don't know....
I love her very much.....We had sex together in the beginning of our relationship because we love and trust each other...It was full of memories thinking back...I really hope that we can go back to the happy days..Its not because that i can have sex with her that make me don't want to lose her but i just love her because she had something in her that other girls can't give me...(not her body though..duh..)
My question is: how can i make my girlfriend back to our happy moments?...
ANSWER: Well, first of all you are very sweet for talking and worrying about her like this! It seems to me that you are right about her dad. I think she may be holding things back from you regarding him. The worst thing in a relationship is to hold the important stuff back. If you are really serious about keeping her and loving her then you need to figure out a time you two can talk on the phone or in person and get to the bottom of this. Explain how much you love her but you feel like she has been pulling away. Give her a chance to explain, and if she doesn't, gently mention her father. Let her know you are there to support and comfort her. I wish you all the best!
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QUESTION: Hello..I have another question here....
My girlfriend and i are getting along now..But its still not like we usually do in our early datings...I don't rush things on her....I just keep giving her some time to make things right.....
Recently....
My girlfriend's best friend told me she had broken up with her boyfriend...She cried at me,saying that without her boyfriend she would end her life! I just don't know what to do....So I just lent her my shoulder..After that,she begin to feel 'OK'..So i accompany her back to her house to prevent her from doing anything crazy like commiting suicide..After that when i walk her to her bedroom.....Bad things happen...She say she had fall in love with me a long time ago and ask me whether can be her new boyfriend!! I was like: Wow! You just broke up and now you wanna start a new relationship so fast?
I told her I'm her best friend's boyfriend already..I told her but i think she didn't seemed to hear it..She was holding my hand and she pulled me to her bed and she kissed me!! I did accidently touch her private parts!! I try to struggle off..Finally....I did and i quickly ran away as fast as i could from her home eventhough she keep saying don't leave her alone..
Back at my home i kept thinking that incident..I don't know what i'll do now..My girlfriend's best friend will tell my girlfriend what happened in her house...
I love my current girlfriend and i certainly don't want to lose her..
I just don't know how to face this problem..
I don't want my girlfriend to know that i just merely have sex with her best friend!!
HELP!! GUIDE ME!
Answer Hi. I really think you should tell your girlfriend. If she loves you she will understand and appreciate you being honest. As for your own morals, it will be okay. You shouldn't have done that but at least you know that you did something wrong. Don't be so hard on yourself, it will all be okay. Make sure your girlfriend knows you are sorry and that you love her. Good luck!
