AboutDavid Expertise I'm a guy and I have been through it all. I specialize in dating friends and dating with somebody with overprotective parents, mainly because of the experiences I have had with both. I can pretty much help you through anything because it is similar to what I am experiencing now.
Experience My experience is mainly through trial and error. I have also taken a mediation class, at school, and we learned how to talk to people and guide them through tough situations.
Organizations I am really involved in the AIDS program at my school, we go around to other schools and teach the kids about how to prevent themselves from contracting HIV/AIDS. It is a really rewarding program.
Publications I write for my school newspaper, edited the middle school one for a year and the yearbook too.
Education/Credentials I'm in High School and have gone through a few different leadership and mediation type classes.
Question So I'm a guy and I've liked this girl who is a very good friend of mine since seventh grade, we'll be going into our junior year after this summer. Just a few weeks ago one of my best friends decided he liked her too and decided to try to get her to go out with him even though he knows how I feel about her. This led to us "fighting" over her (for example we were all at a party and were both trying to spend more time with her, get her alone, etc.) and after a while it became obvious that she liked him, so I decided to back down and let him have her, I just want her to be happy. But anyway, I was talking to her later, and she said that there WAS a time when she liked me, way back in eighth grade or so, but she said now she really only sees me as a friend. So I've decided that I'll just do what I've always done, just still be her friend and if she ever changes her mind I'll be there haha. But what I wanted to ask it, do you think there is a chance that she could end up liking me?
Answer Stephen,
I'm sorry man but in this case I think you fell into the "friend zone". People say that this is impossible to get out of but I do not think so because I got out of it with this one girl multiple times. That said with friends you really never know what is going to happen. There is a chance that right now she is just crushing on this other guy but really likes you and will soon see that. Right now may not be the right timing for you two to have a relationship but look at it this way, if she liked you before why can't she like you again? That is really my feeling on these types of situations. There was obviously something that attracted her to you before so why can't she find that again?
Your problem is going to come with this other friend who also likes her; I have seen many friendships go by the wayside over a girl. I think it is very nobel of you for "setting her free" and letting her be happy but that will change if you learn that she likes you again. This could put a strain on your relationship with that other guy and may cause a problem. I would advise that you precede with caution and if you need any more help I would be more than happy to lend my advice.
