About Nicole Expertise I can answer questions about teen/early adult relationships. Anything from first dates to sex and everything in between! I'll also help you out with all those tricky things like how your bf/gf gets along with your family and friends.
Experience I am 20 years old in a great 2 year relationship. I am lucky enough to have been surrounded by happy supportive couples growing up.
Education/Credentials I am a A student specializing in psychology.
Question Me and my girlfriend broke-up recently (we are 17) because she said she is not ready for the commitment we made. it all started a few months ago when her and my Best friend were "friends with benefits" and me and her were friends. after a few weeks i told her i wanted to be with her and we spent several hours on the phone that night and we decided we wanted to be together so we hid "us" from my Best friend till she was ready to tell him and that took a couple weeks in that time me and her spent a lot of time together and on the phone, we spent 13 hours on the phone one night we started moving way too fast, saying i love you talking about and planning a future together and everything that goes with it. when we finally told him my best friend was ok with it and me and her began dating after about two weeks she started to get scared because of how fast she went from her ex-bf to my best friend to me and that she wasn't over them, now after promising me so much she said she has too much going on to handle a relationship. she said if we stay together it will ruin us so we decided to break-up so that we can get back together when she is ready, but she said we cant plan on getting back together because then it wouldn't be real. we have to just let go and see what happens, she said if were meant to be together nothing will stop that.
That is where we are now, but i cant belive the "meant to be" thing because i know better than that she said she doesn't know when she will be ready and I'm just waiting for her, i love her and i don't want to lose her. What do you think?
Answer Hey Chris. Well, this does sometimes happen in relationships. I think that she is right wanting to end it because she honestly won't be happy with you if she still has 2 other guys she needs closure from. What you need to remember is that pressuring her or trying to change her mind isn't going to help anything. All that will do is make her feel like you are too needy. In a relationship, both parties need to WANT to be together. It isn't fun or compatible if one person is chasing the other and making them feel like they have to be together. Take this break, let her get over her exes. BE there for her-be her friend. Don't let her slip out of your life completely. If she feels this strongly about you she will come back when she is over the other guys! Good luck!
