Expert: Nicole - 6/28/2009

Question
hi am 18 years old and have recently found my self falling for a mates ex.we text each other every day, the texts are very jokey and flirty. recently we have been hanging out. we have have told each other we like each other and ended up sleeping together my feelings have grown more for him. it hasn't been awaked after sleeping with him we still text their more sexual jokey texts, but i really want to be his girlfriend but not sure how to talk to him about it.

Answer
Hi Marry. Okay well really all you can do is tell him you want to be his girlfriend. If you don't this relationship will just keep being about sex for him and he will eventually stop respecting you. Tell him that you really like him and like hanging out with him but you want to make it official. Don't let anybody ever use you! Ask for what you want and make it happen for yourself. Good luck think positively and be sincere when you talk to him.

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