About Nicole Expertise I can answer questions about teen/early adult relationships. Anything from first dates to sex and everything in between! I'll also help you out with all those tricky things like how your bf/gf gets along with your family and friends.
Experience I am 20 years old in a great 2 year relationship. I am lucky enough to have been surrounded by happy supportive couples growing up.
Education/Credentials I am a A student specializing in psychology.
Question I've been best friends with this girl for a while now but recently we've been getting really close. We hang out all the time and we talk online almost every day. When we talk we tell each other really personal things and we really trust each other. We've even said that we love each other (platonically of course). Anyway, at first I just thought of her as a friend but when we started getting really close I started falling for her. Problem is she's told me that she likes another guy. So I thought that she just liked me as a friend, but one day on AIM she brought it up and said that she likes him but she doesn't want to. Then I just got really confused. Another thing that confuses me is that she hates it when guys get all touchy with her but she doesn't mind when I do. For instance, one time I got a little too touchy (nothing inappropriate) and I apologized to her on AIM that night and she said it was fine. She also said that in a weird way she needs me to be kind of touchy with her because I'm the only guy she trusts. So then I thought that she got over this other guy and that she maybe liked me but then she started talking about how I'm her best friend and she wouldn't do anything to screw up our friendship so then I went back to thinking that we should just stay friends. This has been going on for a while now where she says something that makes it look like she likes me as more than a friend but then goes back to the whole love as you as a brother thing. I'm just very confused and I really want to know what she thinks of me because I don't want to ask her out and then it turns out she didn't like me and it messes up our friendship. Hopefully you can help me figure this out. Sorry it was kind of long.
Answer Hey Daniel. It is really sweet how much I can tell you care about her. I have been in your situation and I KNOW it is really confusing. You never know what to do or say, and most importantly you don't want to lose your friend. However, I can honestly say that the best thing to do is put it all out there. You need to tell her that you could be more than friends but if she doesn't want to be then you will respect that and not bring it up again. It is going to be tough and it may be awkward for a couple of days, but it will be 100 times better than not knowing how she feels. Good luck and be yourself and just remember that you will have her in your life no matter what.
