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Question First of all, hi. I'm 14 (if that makes a difference), and I broke up with my ex girlfriend about 2 months ago (after having only been together for two months) and it's been rough for me. I cried and everything the first week or two afterwards. I got some advice on how to deal with it, and for while I thought I had moved on...I was wrong. The feelings have come back lately. My friend says it's not worth trying to get her back because she's a really confusing person, which I agree with, but I don't feel that way. I want her back...BADLY.
I tried to save it for a while but gave up eventually, seeing as it wasn't helping. I would have kept at it too, but I don't want to lose her as a friend as well.
In my opinion, she's the greatest girl in the world. Without really having to think, I can't name more than one or two things that I don't like about her. I mean, everything is great about her. When i asked for the advice I mentioned earlier (from allexperts by the way) they said that love means you simply want the best for them, no matter what...even if it means not being by their side. I feel like more than that...I'm pretty sure I love this girl.
Alright I think that's everything. Thank you in advance!!!
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Answer hi kyel,
the advice you got earlier is something i agree with. loving someone means doing what's best for them and putting their happiness and wellbeing above your own. you didn't mention why you broke up or with who but i'm guessing it's because of things you couldn't work out by being together.
i know you want her back but right now it sounds like you need to give her space. sometimes it's better to start from the beginning as well. if you love her and want to show her how you feel and hopefully get her to take you back, why don't you try being her friend first? be someone she can count on and hopefully start to trust with herself again.
let her see herself the way you see her but don't push it too far too fast. she'll likely get scared off or think of all the reasons why you guys broke up in the first place. does that make sense? in other words, you need to prove yourself and your feelings all over again.
