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Hi. I'm 15 and I have a crush on my best friend (who's a guy), but he's with a girl. I KNOW this girl is cheating on him because I saw her making out with this bloke from our village. I don't know what to tell him. I'm afraid he'll think I'm lying and I know he'll be heartbroken. Should I stay out of this? I really do want them to break up, though because I know I'd be better for him, really anyone would.

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Rose, your only business is your relationship with this guy, not his relationship with another.  That would be your business if you were dating, but as his friend, and especially as someone who has a romantic interest in him, any interference would appear to be jealousy.  Unless you have CLEAR, clear proof, it is what adults call hearsay.  Regardless, it is his relationship, and you can't and should not, interfere.

Chances are it won't last.  Be patient.  When he is available again, and after enough time has passed to make it appropriate, then let him know how you feel.

Regards,

suzi

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Suzi Zimmerman

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I am a teacher and I write books on teen dating, self-esteem, and values. I can answer questions on making healthy choices, self-improvement, liking yourself, relationships and friendships, goal-setting, values, and how to handle making difficult choices.

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Today 1 in 5 sexually active people has HPV (linked to cancer and genital warts) and 1 in 4 has Herpes. 90% of girls who do NOT use condoms become pregnant each year, and AIDS cases are on the rise. Those who do not have sex will not have to deal with these issues, nor will 99% of those who use condoms correctly and consistently. In short, abstain from sex or use condoms - and use them correctly. Parents of adolescent and teen girls should research Gardasil, a vaccine against many forms of HPV. You may not think your daughter will be sexually active, but this will also offer her certain health protection in the event of rape - or should she become sexually active.

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