Teen Dating Issues/Approaching a Girl
I'm 16 and a junior in high school. Recently I've been seeing this freshman that I find pretty attractive. I want to approach her one day and talk to her but I don't know how to do so. I've done something like this before with a girl I liked but it didn't turn out so well. I was extremely nervous and shy. I was also maybe a little over-aggressive. Basically my question is How should I go about approaching this new girl? I wanted to get a female perspective.
The best way to approach a girl is NOT as an admirer but as a friend. This especially true if your current attraction is based on just thinking she's attractive. This means you probably don't know anything about her, her values, interests, etc.
If you are unsure how to approach her, watch her to learn what her interests are. For example, if she's carrying a book and you can read the binding, maybe you can use that to strike up a conversation. "Twilight. You're reading it? I've been curious to know how the books compare to the movies. Any good?" Or, if she's wearing a Led Zeppelin shirt, say, "Man, it's so cool to see a girl wearing a Zeppelin shirt these days. You like classic rock?" Also, see who she hangs with. Figure out if you have a connection. For example, maybe one of her friends is in one of your classes, so maybe there's a way to connect that way - like make friends with the friend - not to use her, of course, but to expand your friendships. Then, when you see your new friend, you can feel comfortable going up to her after school or at lunch and "bump into" the attractive girl. Even then, don't show interest too quickly. THAT ONE, in particular, needs to look VERY natural, or you'll blow your cover!!
The cool thing is that, by observing her, you will get to know more about her than just that she's pretty. Those things you'll learn are the true "bones" of a relationship - much more important than looks.
Let me know if there's anything else. And good luck!!