About Matt Expertise I can answer many questions in this area. I can help with asking someone out, getting over a breakup, and much more. If you are questioning yourself as to whether or not what you're doing is right or not, please feel free to ask me. I know much about teenage dating, considering I still go through many of the issues myself. I love helping other people, and there is no question that I will not attempt to answer.
Experience I am a teen myself for the most part, therefore I have much experience in this area. I have been on dates, good and bad. I have broken up with, and been broken up with several times.
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Expert: Matt Date: 6/16/2007 Subject: Ex gf - good friends??
Question Hey, dude i'm so confused my ex girlfriend dumped me about 6 weeks ago maybe 7 she's only told me today that she dumped me because i kept 'changing' and that i have a negative out look on every thing oh and that i was to posessive. I had a bad childhood though, parents cheating all the time, i was sexually abused by my cousin and every girl i've been with has cheated on me. i've done every thing to try and win this girls heart back but nothing is working or atleast it seems, she'l stil have sex with me now and then and it literally just happens, we'll start play fightin and end up with each other, the next thing i know we're going out shoppin as mates again as if nothing ever happened, i know she doesnt love me, and she's told me she finds me more attractive than she did when she was with me - so whats going on in her head? she's got loads of guys asking her out but she still says no to them..its killing me man. but i really dont wanna lose her out of my life. i also have these stupid beliefs of kama which is accordance with my O.C.D its horrible and controls every thing, thoughts telling me not to move on because she'll find some one and all this other b.s its driving me crazy though. i actually love this girl and can't seem to shift her. What do i do? how do i play it with her? please help.
Paul London, England :(
Answer Hello Paul.. Well; it seems like you're in a little bit of a hole right now; so I'll see if I can help you out here. Although; I'm not certain what all I can be of assistance with. However; lets begin just the same..
I'm sorry to hear about your rough childhood; yet it happens.. I hope things are better now for the most part.. I've also had it a little rough myself as well.
I advise you not to continue having sex with this girl if you're not even dating.. For numerous reasons: I don't know your ages, yet you still seem like teens, this constant-sex has a higher chance of becoming pregnant. If you're both teens still; this is NO place either of want to be in right now.
I advise you not to let her go of you life becauase you seem to care, and want her in your life.. I suggest you two take a break from eachother for a month or two without any communication other than a little phone call once a week or so.. You both need to think to yourselves, and need space. Trust me; this will sometimes work wonders.
Perhaps you should consider finding a new girl to spend time, and occupy yourself with. Be careful with this term of "Love".. Love; is most likely the most mistaken word ever. People use "Love" too often; and it usually IS not love. Love is mistaken for something it's not, and also taken too lightly while being abused. I suggest you both hold off on this "Love" term for quite sometime.
You mention O.C.D.? What exactly is this? I'm not a firm believer in Karma, therefore I'm guessing this O.C.D. is linked with Karma somehow?.
Perhaps you should tell her how you feel about this all.. Get together sometime with no extra distractions, and tell her. Also; be sure to ask her how she feels about it all.. Afterwards; tell her that maybe you two should take some time apart for a while.
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