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Expert: Sandi Date: 11/16/2007 Subject: Friend (stretched) is going out with girl I REALLY like
Question k. I'm 15 and really like this girl, Kim. Like I would seriously like marry her right now, but I just met her a month ago. I was at my house and my friend Trever was over. He's my age. I got bored so I called Kim and asked her If she wanted to meet tomorrow. She said sure. and so Trever had only met her once and thought she was mad hot and wanted to bang her. He thought that's why we were going to meet her the next day, but I knew that wasn't going to happen. But I had ran out of (just in case) condoms, cuz we were putting them on ppls doorsteps for like pranksm so the next day I told him I was going to the store to get some and he came but ya w/e. We went to meet Kim at the park and Kim knew I was going out with someone. But Trever was single. HERES THE THING THO. I was going out with a girl that Trever likes, Ashley, but cuz she asked me out. But I didn't know that Trever liked her till after we started going out. SO wen I found out he liked her, I was going to break up with Ashley cuz It felt weird. But I never got a chance to. I didn't really like Ashley that much cuz I had just met her because I stayed back this year and she just came from the middle school to the high school. but anyway. Kim asked Trever out that day when I wasn't looking/listening and Trever knew that I was practically in love with her and he said yes (probably to get back at me for going out with Ashley cuz he didn't know I planned to break up with her). So now they're going out and I cant stop thinking about her. I broke up with Ashley a couple days ago and this all happened last week. I called her and told her everything I knew bad about Trever, and the fact that he just wants to bang her, but he acts completely different around her, like all nice and stuff. He's careful what he says about her around me now cuz he knows I'll relay it back to her. I called her and told her how I felt about her and basically the whole story I'm telling you, I told her. Now she wants to break up with Trever and go out with me, but she kind of likes him and Trever pulls the whole "Please don't break up with me" thing and it just crushes her and she cant do it. I told her to have her friend do it for her but she doesn't want to do that either. She even said that she'd cheat on Trever with me. I'd rather we just went out cuz then that gets weird and will cause more problems. But I'm willing to do that if thats the only way I can be with her. I will say it, I'm obsessed with this girl. but I need her to see what an ass this kid Trever is and I don't know what to do. Can you try to help me lol.
Answer the worst thing you could do is to bad talk about your friend and convince this girl to break up with him and date you. she needs to figure these things out her self. and the fact that your friend is asking out a girl that he knows you like is also wrong. what kind of friend does that? it shouldnt be a competition. let this girl get to know you for who you are and she can make up her mind if she wants to date you or your friend or none of you. i dont mean to be to strong here but just my thoughts :)
