About Nicole D Expertise I can answer questions dealing with what young men and young women expect in a teenage relationship. I am also very familiar with the things that goes on in a teenagers mind when they are dating. I would like to encourage teenagers not to give into soemone just because they like a person. I enjoy helping people make the right decision and preventing them from making a decision they will regret.
Experience Several of my friends come to me for advice. I give them advice on a diversity things including relationships and dating. I have also had to deal with dating situations and relationship problems.
I would need some help cause I feel really confused... I'm a 16 year-old girl.
It's about a "relationship" I had in 7th grade.
Well, let me tell you about it and please let me know what you think afterwards! PLEASE
At about the end of the school year, in 7th grade I just felt in love with a boy in my class. I started to talk to him and yeah, we became good friends. He felt in love with me too, by the way. We didn't go out together or something, just friends. But then, the year after, he was kinda "jerk" with me (he wasn't impolite or something, I just felt like he was laughing with his friend because of me or something...). I know he didn't wanted to but, I decided not to talk to him anymore...(how stupid I was!). He realised that I didn't wanted to talk to him anymore and tried to talk to me even though I didn't listen.
Let me tell you he was a nice person, though and kinda shy sometimes. So that was at the begining of the 8th grade. (I still loved him.) I didn't talked to him afterwards... only once (in 9th grade) for a project in class (he askes me something, I answered. but I never asked something) and we saw each other every day. Last year (10th grade), I only "talked" to him once (he asked me what time it was!). THAT'S ALL! The whole years.... seeing each other, but not talking to each other!
And here we are now in our last year of high school (11th grade). I didn't talk to him at all this year... well the year begun 3 weeks ago. Now, I think I still love him ! But I'm not sure of it... But you see, in 7th grade... I really really loved him...so much that I can't even tell... I never loved a guy as much before!
I don't know what he feels about me now, but it seems like he would like to talk to me but i guess maybe he feels bad that i was the one who didn't talked to him anymore... Should I talk to him ? I guess I should .... but I don't know..... I'm not even sure of what I feel about him. (he's one month younger than me, and he's birthday is coming up in one month and a half...)
Please tell me something ! I need to know your opinion. PLEASE HELP!
I don't wannna be confused anymore.
Thanks a lot !
Answer Kristie,
Hey sweetie. I hope you are having a great day/night. I am about to be very straight-forward with you, so please do not take anything I say the wrong way. I just want to tell you exactly how I feel about the entire situation.
First off, you do need to talk to him. It is very immature to go around and see someone, know them, and not talk. Start off by saying hey to him more often. Then continue to let the conversations progress. You're the one that stopped talking to him, therefore it is now your place to start back. Don't worry about what he thinks, because it's only right for you to try to make at least a friendship between you two. If you don't, then you know you will continue to wonder "what if."
Don't try to find out right away how you feel about him. Just concentrate on getting to know him, because I assure you he has changed some. Talk to him with the purpose to become friends with him. Eventually he should start talking to you, rather than you having to go up and talk to him. But this might take a while, considering how things ended up being in the past. Just remember that you are not far from being an adult, and that it's time to think like an adult. It's only right for you to go up and talk to him. If he asks what went on and why you guys stopped talking, simply tell him that it was because you were in 7th grade and very immature. Reassure him that a lot of time has passed between now and then and things are different.
Just know that it was not completely your fault. You were both immature, but I'm assuming you have both matured a lot since then. Just be yourself and do what you think is right.
Kristie, you know what you need to do, and what you feel you want to do. You can do it, I promise. Just be yourself and talk to him. I'm sorry I was being so straight-forward, I just really wanted to get my point across. I'm here for you if you need me, feel free to write back anytime you'd like. Have a great day/night and I wish you the best of luck.
