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Expert: Matt Date: 6/20/2007 Subject: My guy friend
Question Hi Matt!
I'm a teen, and I have a little bit of a problem.
Well, I really like one of my good friends.
He doesn't go to my school, but I know him from a (co-Ed) team that I am on.
The others on the team do not know I like him.
I talk to him often through e-mail, but I don't know if he sees our relationship as just close friends.
I want to tell him how I feel, because I really like him, but I am afraid of
1) Rejection; which leads to extreme embarrassment(has happened to me at the beginning of the school year)
2) Awkwardness; Whether he likes me or not, I'm afraid that this might ruin our friendship
I don't know if I should just continue flirting with him (as I currently do when I see him) and hope he gets the idea that I like him, or make a move and hope he likes me back so that I do not have to go through extreme awkwardness/embarrassment (as I will see him again often).
Also, how can I catch his attention and make it clear that I like him, without scaring him by just straight-out telling him?
Also, if we do end up going out, I always run out of things to talk about. Do you have any tips or ideas??
Please help me if you can!
Thanks so so much!!
Answer Hello Chloe. I am glad you mention that you're a teen; but mentioning your "ages" more directly; is a bit more clear and helpful, yet I'll help you as much as I can. Since you're a teen tha likes your really good friend; I'll guess between ages 15-17? Forgive me if I'm wrong. Lets see if I can help you now though..
First of all: I want to say that if other people on your Co-Ed team do or don't know you like him, that's only your business that others don't HAVE to know. This feeling of liking; and fear of rejection is common.. Many people fail rejection and failure for something, myself included of course. Rejection happens in relationships, and it's a risk that must be taken in order to progress.
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In my 7'th grade of school in Middle School; I fell for a girl that I had NEVER talked to. I one day I wrote and gave her a note, and fled into the nearest bathroom because I was soo embarrassed. I never got one back, yet I still persisted. One day I went up to her and asked her out.. She shook her head no and said sorry. I waited a couple weeks like my friend said; and took a Carnation (FLOWER) to school and offered it to her and asked her again.. Now TALK about embarrassment! Expecially when I was rejected, AGAIN. She eventually came up to me in the hall later that day and said she already had a bf, that's why she said no. I felt soo dumb and very embarrassed, yet it helped me. Because she was my FIRST girl I EVER asked out, It's helped me become more used to the rejection and embarrassment.
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You really shouldn't worry about your feeling of "awkwardness"; and him being different around you once you ask/tell him, if you do. If you come straight out and say "I like you and would like to go out with you"; THAT may be a little different, so avoid that. ;P
I see that you have a couple options here.
#1- You DO keep flirting, ect. and hope he gets the idea.
#2-You take action and do something about it.
I suggest in an E.mail; or over an IM (Instant Messenger-MSN,AOL,Yahoo, ect), you ask if he has a phone number you can reach him at, that way you can talk to him some more.. Talk about school, what he thinks of the Co-Ed, what he does after school, what he's been doing lately, ect.
Stick with basic conversations.. You don't need to talk about anything TOO big; such "Tell me about the planet Mars", or "Rocket Science, ect." Lol.
As for catching his full attention, I really don't know much about that.
Good Luck and I hope this helps. I'm very sorry if I didn't. Please forgive me. Please feel free to ask me as many Follow-Up Questions as often as you like, and anything else in the future.. --Matt--
