About Matt Expertise I can answer many questions in this area. I can help with asking someone out, getting over a breakup, and much more. If you are questioning yourself as to whether or not what you're doing is right or not, please feel free to ask me. I know much about teenage dating, considering I still go through many of the issues myself. I love helping other people, and there is no question that I will not attempt to answer.
Experience I am a teen myself for the most part, therefore I have much experience in this area. I have been on dates, good and bad. I have broken up with, and been broken up with several times.
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Expert: Matt Date: 9/20/2007 Subject: inexsperience
Question i am 14 and i have never been kisses...
infact i have never had a boyfriend
i really fancy someone and people tell me that he fancys me! we are both really good friends and i am going to his party next week where theres acohol and drugs... i have tryed all of them before so thats not really a problam...
but he has been known to take advantage before and i wont really be in my right mind.
i dont know wether to kiss him or just tell him no!
because i havnt had my first kiss yet and i am worried that i might not be good enough
or that it will be weird between us...
what do i do?...
Answer Hello Gabrielle.
First of all, being 14 without having a kiss or relationship is perfectly fine, and nothing wrong with that. In fact; I was 16 before I got my first REAL girlfriend.
You don't know whether you should kiss him or tell him no? If he's been known for "using" people or taking advantages of them, I suggest you say no. If there's going to be alcohol&drugs there, I honestly suggest you don't even go!
Whether you've tried them or not, you're still too young just the same. In my opinion, if you can't buy alcohol legally *21 where I live*, you don't need to be drinking any. If you can't buy cigarettes *18 where I live*, you shouldn't be smoking.
Sorry to sound cold or rude, but it's the truth. You're welcome to do what you want, but don't lead yourself in too deep, of a hole he's digging. In other words, you CAN go to this party, but don't participate in drugs/smoking/drinking, etc. Don't let him or anyone else take advantage of you.
Also, you said he's been known to take advantage before? This is just saying that it don't matter whether you're good enough or not, to him it don't matter.
Best of luck, and ask followups if you like. --Matty--
