About Matt Expertise I can answer many questions in this area. I can help with asking someone out, getting over a breakup, and much more. If you are questioning yourself as to whether or not what you're doing is right or not, please feel free to ask me. I know much about teenage dating, considering I still go through many of the issues myself. I love helping other people, and there is no question that I will not attempt to answer.
Experience I am a teen myself for the most part, therefore I have much experience in this area. I have been on dates, good and bad. I have broken up with, and been broken up with several times.
Publications I have posted several poems on the website known as www.poetry.com
Education/Credentials I am currently a Jr. in High School. At the end of school, I hope to go into the field of Psychology to learn more about people and issues they face.
Awards and Honors I have some educational awards, as well as other ones as well. I always look forward to earning more awards.
Question QUESTION: Heyy.
I've had my boyfriend for about a month and a half. We're both 15 and things are going great except for one little problem: making out.
We both do it, we both love it, and come up with a lot of excuses to get a bit of lip contact in there... the problem is where.
Most of the time's I'm over his house, his parents continuously hang around. They will let his sister and her boyfriend (both 17) go upstairs to "watch movies" (right). But they wont let us hang out in the den on our own or even go hang out outside if we're alone.
The most we can ever do is sneak kisses, and we both want to be able to make out more.
However, neither of us want to venture into movie theatres again. it may be worth it in the long run, but it gets far too uncomfortable. And my parents are ok with cuddling, but they dont like me kissing him when he's over.
What I'm asking is, do you have suggestions on places to make out where we'll be out of the public eye? nothing too crazy of course, but things we can do so we can make out more often. thanks.
ANSWER: Hello Naomi. I'm sorry about the delay in answering your question. I've been busy the past few days; and sadly, I'll be attending a funeral tomorrow. This question isn't entirely my Common-Question type, and I really don't know if I can help much, yet I'll try.
So you and your bf are both 15, and his sister and her bf are 17? First of all; watch out for this making out.. It may seem minor, fun, ect. However; it leads to other things, which leads to more.. Trust me here; I've learn from First-Hand-Experience. You're kinda in the same area as I am.. We rarely have any peace to be alone together in the house, OR outside..
You're always having his parents around when you're over there? I'm 18 and my gf is 17 but when I am at my gf's house *more often than her being at mine*; her little brother is around us most of the time. Her parents are just concerned about you two. They know at your ages; you're hormones are more different, and you're more likely to become sexually active while alone..
Since your brother and his gf are older *being 17*; they're likely to be sexually active too, yet, they are more responsible for their actions. Have you done anything with your bf; or has he done anything with you to make his parents put less trust in you two together? Such as *Have they caught you two making out alone*? If so; this is a good reason why they won't let you be alone together..
You need to do things for his parents to make them trust and put more respect in you. Examples; help with dishes if you're ever there for dinner, lunch, ect. You may even want to ask your bf if he can ask his parents why you two aren't allowed alone together to watch a video, or go outside, ect. Try not to be too "cuddly" arond his parents, because this can push them in the direction that you two are too close and fondling eachother too much..
This is one question I only have limited answers to, because finding hiding spots for things that aren't approved of, is something I am UNABLE to attempt to do.. Sorry, but I hope you understand..
Thanks for the question; but sorry I can't help much.. Please feel free to Ask Follow-Up Questions anytime in the future, and question me about anything, anytime in the future.. --Matt--
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QUESTION: thank you for your attempt, and im sorry about the death of your friend or family member. my problems seem trivial in comparison.
regarding things that might make his parents distrustful, im not sure. anything that may have seemed shifty was coincidence. like one time we ended up sitting on the oppisite side of a kitchen island from them (on the floor), but we didnt really do anything. He kissed me a couple times, but I was uncomfortable with his parents sitting right there, so i told him to stop.
He likes to hold onto me when we're just standing around, like have his arm round my back or something, but never anything *bad*bad.
If we're just hanging out and they're there we usually just get into that disgustingly cutesy phase. you know what i mean? not like, baby talk (thank goodness) but he'll tickle me and steal my nose and wotnot and its just all that giggly stuff. thats not bad is it?
I have, however, said no to certain plans because I like his parents, and don't want to lie to either them or mine. And they seem to genuinely like me. They invite me to places with the rest of the family, and we banter about things. Heritage, etcetera. I dunnoooo.
Thanks so much, by the way.
Answer Hello again Naomi. Once again; sorry for the delay in writing back to you.. It was my mistake because yesterday was the funeral viewing. Then today I had a dentist aptment AND and the funeral itselt, was TODAY.. It was my gf's dad's dad (my gf's grandpa) that passed away. I didn't know him either, but her dad invited me to viewing&funeral, so I went to show some respect. Now I get home to a very nice welcome committee of 16 questions on AllExperts. Yay! :(
Okay; so I can understand the fist part. Him putting his arm around you don't seem too bad, considering I do it with my gf as well. Second part: No; tickling, ect, isn't bad in my opinion. We do that more often than not, so his parents shouldn't mind that too much.
If what you told me is all that you two do; I can't really see anything too bad in there. I suggest that he just talk to his parents, and possibly try to get them to lean back on the privacy *You two go outside for a walk around, ect.
Sorry this is a little unhelpful; yet I am soo full on AllExperts Questions, the past 2 days have been tiring for me, and I'm just really tired. Sorry! I'm going to finish AllExperts Questions, and put my status on Vacation for at least 2 days. Please feel free to contact through my personal e.mail below..
matt0289@hotmail.com --Thanks, sorry, and please feel free to question me anytime in the future.
--Matt--
