Expert: Sandi - 6/28/2006

Question
Dear Sandi,
Thank you so much for your reply. I tried to dicuss the matter with her several times but she refuses to discuss anything about sex. Regarding the width of my penis its aboout 2 inches at the middle when erect and the head circumferance would be slightly more. I do understand that we need to talk about it and tried to do that act first to deal with this. Can I ask her to write to you. I am sure your response would better make her convinced. Can you also suggest some ways to make the initial act less troublesome, like some specific positions or even some cream to lubricate.

Thank you so much and awaiting your response

Paul
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Followup To

Question -
I 22years old man and have been dating girl of 19 years for the last 8 months. She is thin having a physique less than her age. We love each other so much. We had a traumatic experience when for the first time we tried to indulge in sex. She got terrified seeing my penis full erect. Its 8.5 inches in when fully erect. Is it really big to get terrified. What could be the reason. How can I deal with her on the issue. It has really affected our relationship. Kindly give your valuable suggestion.

Answer -
your penis is probably larger then most guys. but remember, girls have babies through there! :) did you guys have sex? i dont think it will as bad as she thinks it will. also it depends on two things. your long but are you wide? i wide penis can hurt more then just a long one. you can control how far you go inside her but if you are wide then you cant control that. you guys need to talk about this and help each other out. she needs to be open and honest with you and vise versa. sit down with her and try to find out how you both can work on this and fix the issue. if she hasnt even tried to have sex with you yet then that needs to happen first. take it slow and make sure she understands you will be very gentle with her. hope that helped! :)

sandi


Answer
sure you can have her email me directly if you want. i would be happy to talk with her. my email is sandimodel@excite.com

as far as positions goes, you would want one that allows both of you to have some controll on how far your penis goes inside her. doggy style is good because you can controll how far you go inside her. if she is on top of you then the controll goes more to her. it really depends on what feels better for both of you. lubrication is always good. you can either buy some like ky or astroglide or you can perform oral sex on her first.

talk to you later! :)

sandi