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I have studied psychology for a number of years
Question QUESTION: hi,
im 17 and ive been out with this guy a couple times, he's nice and everyting and i like him, but sometimes i feel a bit apphrenhensive about going out with him. im not that relationship savvy, and am just a bit scared i think of what might happen
i feel quite stupid about it really, i kinda get cold feet on myself about going out with guys that ask me out
i dont want to break up with him, but i just need some more time to myself i think, as he is always wanting to do something or come over
what should i do?
ANSWER: Hi,
It's very common for a 17 year old to not feel ready for dating. Can I ask why you want to date so much? Can I ask why you want to date him so much? What do you want in a relationship and why? These questions should help you think about your feelings and find the truth to see if you are ready or not.
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QUESTION: I would be perfectly happy being single but he asked me out and i felt i had to say yes, silly i know. i have realized since posting that i need to break it off because im not ready for a relationship, so now i need to figure out how to do that. i think i believe i need to date because all my friends are but really this situation has just made me unhappy so i need to do what is best for me and not date because i think i need to, or my friends are. Im far more happier living my life without a relationship at the moment, but the hard part will be telling him that. Any tips and thanks for helping me come to this realization.
Answer Hi,
Just because others do something does not mean you NEED to follow. I think you aren't ready for the dating area right now. This is VERY common. I know how hard it is to say NO, yet sometimes you have to say this. Now you are in a setup that if you break it up, it may be hard to just be friends with him. I do recommend to be friends with him if he is a good person. But, see how this can cause a problem.
I did not date at your age. A lot of people don't. My religion stated I couldn't or shouldn't date below age 18.
You are STRONG and you should be happy for this. Some of your friends may be unhappy they are dating and rushing it. I've had people come to me about this before.
Any tips to breaking up a relationship? AHHHHHHHHHHH. I'm sorry, yet this is hard for me to recommend a good way without knowing the person. We have "breakup experts" here. I think it's a special area of this site. You may want to ask them.
I recommend to do so in a public place, be polite, respectful, and honest, yet not hard. Just explain to him how you feel you aren't ready to date. You want to be his friend if he is a good person. I know it will be hard, yet the sooner the better, right? Let me know how it goes. Tell him the good with the relationship.
Can I ask again how long you dated him? You said a couple of times you went out with him.
Please ask follow ups. Please let me know what the other experts said. Please let me know how it goes.
