Expert: Samantha Mattingly - 2/27/2008

Question
Hello Samantha,
I have tried having sex several times and i am a virgin each and every time i have used plenty of lubricant. It hasnt worked for 2 reasons 1) It just wont go in.. AT ALL! 2) it is EXTREMELY painful for me.. and i really mean painful, this hurts more than anything that has ever physically hurt me. What i am asking is can you please tell me what i can do to make it hurt less? and why wont it go in? I have a boyfriend who wants to have sex with me and i dont want to because i embarassed over the situation, he doesnt know about this. and i dont want to keep declining him as i want to aswell.
i really need some help and advice here.
Thankyou

Answer
Dear Jen,

I am very sorry it won't go in, but it sounds like you have a pretty small vagina that doesn't want to grow.  If you aren't eighteen yet, your bagina is still stretching and growing and still needs some time to be able to fit a penis inside of it.  In time, it should grow to a size where it should be.  Lubricant is basically the only common thing that is useful in this situation.  Hope this helps.