About Martin M Expertise Health is in the body, it`s in the mind and it`s in the emotions. About the body you can ask anyone, the other two are not so easy to discuss. Genitals are tricky subjects as well. So, just when sex is new and relationships become complex, who can you talk to? Teens need to grow up healthily in ALL respects. Your sex-life has just started, don`t let it start all knotted up. If you worry about the first time, kissing, virginity, STD`s, love, genital size, masturbation, homosexuality, self-confidence, oral sex or any such matter, ask away. Get it off your chest, don`t worry, be happy.
Experience I?m not a doctor, but I learned much about much. On this site I advised and helped hundreds of people who had problems and questions about their body, sexuality and relationships. I specialize in questions that are SILLY, PRIVATE, EMBARRASSING, DIRTY and STUPID. Somewhere in your teens, you run into puberty and sex gets to be an item. You learn the basics about puberty and sex at school and at home, but where do you get the details? The weird and naughty bits? Who do you ask those private and embarrassing questions? You don?t want to look dirty-minded asking a teacher, you don?t want to look silly and stupid asking a friend. If you don?t ask, you worry and blunder. That?s where I come in. Old enough to know, young enough (at heart) to understand you.
Expert: Martin M Date: 5/29/2005 Subject: masturbation
Question hi, im a 17 year old female, i feel hooked to masturbation because i dont want to have sex until i find the right person, is that dangerous to my health, and why do i frequently feel the need to pleasure myself, can it be some foods that trigger that or is it just hormones. thank you
Answer Dear Sara,
It's not dangerous to your health, though it does take some energy. If you do it often (twice daily or so) you may start feeling a bit tired and drowsy. It may also be habit-forming (some people eventually can't easily get to sleep unless they've masturbated) and it may ‘spoil' you. Meaning: if you masturbate often for a very long time, real sex can be a bit of a disappointment. When you masturbate you feel exactly where to go and what feels best, you can relax completely, take your own time, have your own fantasies etcetera. Duo-sex involves the stressy ‘duty' to ‘perform', a boy's different speed, his wishes, his ignorant fumbling, etcetera. Okay, that's a worst-case scenario, but in sex, solo and duo are very different things. Don't worry about that, it doesn't happen overnight and it's easily overcome.
The need does NOT come from any food or so, it's hormones and inclination. It may be that you are spurred on by the ‘habit' I mentioned above. Masturbation relaxes and comforts you. It may be that these things have become as important as the sexual satisfaction. If you masturbate with the idea ‘why not', it's the habit-kind. If you masturbate because sexual thoughts and feelings keep popping up, it's the hormones.
