AboutDeborah Expertise I can answer questions about pregnancy symptoms, contraception, abortion, adoption,and
teen parenthood. Specifically, I can give up to date, accurate medical information, latest
studies as well as statistics pertaining to health issues surrounding pregnancy, and factors
to be considered before deciding to become a teen parent.
Experience I have answered over 3000 questions in this area on other health sites, most in the area of teen pregnancy.
Education/Credentials I have a bachelor's Degree in Biology, and am halfway through a Master's Degree, also in Biology. I have access to and read many of the top medical journals, from which I also get the best, most thorough and accurate to answers to pressing medical and health related questions.
Past/Present Clients ehealth over 3000 posts
pro-choice talk over 6000 posts
Expert: Deborah Date: 8/3/2008 Subject: im sixteen and pregnant
Question hello, im monique im sixteen in grade 10, i failed a year. right now its summer time , i once had an abotion back in oct, i went through pain and hurrting when it happened and then i decided to plan a pregnancy ... how stupid was i, now im 8 weeks pregnant i .... act like im tough but deep down im hurting unsure of what to do , i dont want an abortion but of course my mother .. wants that and then my dad wants me to choice, and the farther of the kid just wants to know if hes going to lose anothing child. im only sixteen and im sooo overwhelmed with morning sickness im scared of getting stretch marks im scared of being alone, i just want help, i want to know if i should.... not have it but i know i wont be the same because ive been reading up about my baby and its growing deveolpment i love it but then i have such bad doubts one minute, im strong and i know i can do it but i had so many goals for myself, what if i cant live my life the way i wanted too.. im just lost right now if you could give me some advice i would really love that.. .. right now my mom is claling the abortion center to set an oppointment p and oh god i know god is going to hate me . i want to keep it so bad im just scared.
Answer Dear Monique,
All of the following is just my opinion, and I am telling it to you because you asked. :)
If you read the Bible you will see that God said a fetus was not a human being until He put the breath of life into it, in other words, until it is born. In my opinion, God loves YOU and does not want you to be an unwed, single mother living in poverty. He wants you to grow up, finish your education, get a good job, get MARRIED, and then have a baby.
Many people have more than one abortion. I did, and I never regretted it. I waited until I did all of the things I just listed, got married, etc., and then had a beautiful baby girl. That would be my advice to you. Do not ruin your life before it even begins.
Write back if you want to talk, I'll be here.
Take care,
Deb
Dear Monique,
Thank-you for the nice comments.
If you are this unsure about an abortion, you probably shouldn't have one. You may be setting yourself up for feelings of regret later on.
I want to wish you the best with which ever you decide.
