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Expert: Jaycie
Date: 10/7/2008
Subject: guy problem
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QUESTION: the situation i am in is involing a guy and a ex friend of mine. Well my ex friend broke up with the guy who is daniel, but now that i have hung out with him for awhile..as weeks and now that it is oct. its been bout a good half of a month now that daniel started to like me...nbut he says he loves me but i just do not know what to do and i like him but i am totally dazed and confused..
ANSWER: If he's not with your friend anymore, he's free game. She can't get mad at you for going out with him if she's not with him anymore. But you might want to know why she broke up with him. That might come in handy later. But don't worry about your friend. If she really has a problem with it, talk about it and see if there is a way you can get it to work out. You can go with who you want to and if you really want to be with this guy, go for it. But do it for you, not him.
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QUESTION: Well I think he still likes her but he sits her telling me that he loves me. Well on his cell O phone he still has pictures of her and him together, of course he did say he has to delete some pictures but he said that almost about 3 weeks ago. but yet he still has the pictures. She broke up with him because he was hanging out with and talking to two people that she was not aloud to talk to or hang out with, she broke up wit him and she wont talk to me anymore just cause i don't have her on my myspace. I told him last night that i am not trying to take the place or replace the spot where she was. For one fact you know i feel like i am the Lilly that is just happened to float by in the lake and i am getting used. that how i feel, yet i just don't know how to say anything. He asked me what i think about it for us going out i said i really don't know for the crap in the area. Now he asked me that question twice, he was going to ask three times but he never did the third time. I don't want to be put in the situation where i may end up getting hurt or to where you uses me to to get back at her. Or anything esla. I feel as though its just lies after lies. I don't know anymore i want the truth and i guess that i am trying to push the truth out there to fast i guess.
ANSWER: Talk to him about the pictures. Maybe he forgot or he just hasn't been able to do it. But if it bugs you, he needs you know about it. Would it be so bad to add her on your Myspace? If you really don't want to that's okay but if it would help her be okay with everything, it might be a good option. Tell him that you feel that way. He needs to know. Guys usually need to be told bluntly with everything. Event he sweet, sensitive guy needs that every once in a while. He might not know. If you don't like what he's doing now, maybe you should wait to go out with him. Problems just get bigger in relationships. Wait until everything is sorted out and then go out with him. It might help a lot.
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QUESTION: i have i reason i do not want her on myspace. I guess it wouldn't kill to ask him but i just feel used more then anything maybe it is just because everything is so jumbled up at the moment. It seems hard to talk to him since he knows how i feel about him but it is weird he more open with me but there seems like something is missing and i don't know what it is though? i just can image what goes on in any guys mind..why are they so complicated, confusing stubborn and all that other stuff...i wish it was alot easier for us to communicate, i will give it a shot then i will see where it goes.. but still it seems like something is wrong and all.
Answer
It's up to you if you want her on you myspace. I don't let certain people on mine so you can do the same thing.
I think you need to talk to the guy and the girl to figure out what is going on and what you can deal with.
Guys are very simple when you get down to it. Girls are the confusing ones and that makes us think that guys have to be that way too. Sometimes they don't really say anything and that's annoying but when they do talk, it's direct and to the point. Just talk and listen to what he says. You both need to get this out between you two.
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